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      • Psalm 96:11–13ESV

      • Psalm 35:27ESV

  • Come Thou Fount (I Will Sing)
  • Doxology (God Be Praised)

      • Hebrews 4:12–16ESV

      • Hebrews 4:12-13ESV

      • Hebrews 4:14-15ESV

      • Hebrews 4:16ESV

      • Psalm 35:27ESV

  • My Worth Is Not In What I Own (At The Cross)

      • Exodus 20:1-3KJV1900

      • Exodus 20:4KJV1900

      • Exodus 20:5-6KJV1900

      • Exodus 20:7-9KJV1900

      • Exodus 20:10KJV1900

      • Exodus 20:11-12KJV1900

  • Introduction

    It seems like from the time a toddler learns to say “no” until our last breath, many of us struggle with being led. We like to be in charge and we bristle when we feel like those with authority get it wrong.
    The last 4 weeks we’ve looked at the commands that relate to our interaction with God. Beginning today we look at 6 interactions with other people that are shaped by our love for God. We start with how we respond to the people that God puts in authority over us.

    Your First Struggle with Authority

    Parents are Exhibit #1

    In the rare exception of a late childhood adoption, you never got to choose your parents. You got the ones God gave you.
    If you had godly parents who instilled proper discipline, then you probably have little problem with other forms of authority at school, work or society.
    If you had parents who were inconsistent in discipline or overly dominant then I would suspect that you continue to struggle will all forms of authority. When I read this verse then something made the hair stand up on the back of your neck and a wall of emotional defense now stands between you and me.
    Parents like this frequently have children who find it difficult to believe God is good. They see God as someone who instills unnecessary rules and is just watching for us to mess up so that He can sweep in and punish. They see God as a cosmic killjoy rather than as a provider/protector.
    4. While Parents are Exhibit #1, they are not our last example. While some never learn or are late to learn to honor their parents, Graciously God brings other authority into our lives like sports referees or military drill instructors. Very few of us will ever enter adulthood without working or playing under the authority of another. And God says parents are the first example of learning to submit.

    Exhibit #1 shapes all other authority

    If you had parents whom you knew had your best interest at heart, even though they made mistakes, you probably have had little trouble submitting to other authorities such as teachers, deputies, your boss, or a Drill Instructor.
    My son has a T-shirt that he wore frequently as he transitioned from High School to College. The logo on the shirt was a large box and outside of the box was the word “think”. I told him that if we first have to learn to live within the box before we are entrusted with thinking outside of the box—but I am a rule follower.

    No “small print”

    This command would be easy if it read “Honor Your father and mother…to the extent that they are correct”. It doesn’t say “Honor your parents as long as you understand and agree with them.” It doesn’t say “Honor your parents as long as they are no stricter than your friends’ parents.”
    Your parents weren’t perfect, and you aren’t either. God instructs us to honor first, then appeal later.
    I have several classmates who are African-American and many of these friends have posted on social media about having “the talk” with their sons. “The talk” is not the one about reproduction and respect, but the one about interacting with security and law enforcement. Chet, Syglenda and Marlon have each instructed their sons that coming home alive is so important that they must resist the urge to argue when stopped, but to comply first and later to tell their side of the story.
    3. The fifth commandment confronts us with some difficult questions that we must face honestly:
    How should a Christian student respond to a difficult teacher?
    How should an employee deal with a difficult boss?
    How should Christians relate to leaders in the church or in the nation with whom they may passionately disagree?
    What is your responsibility when a person in authority behaves dishonorably?
    What would it mean to honor them?

    The Meaning of “Honor” כַּבֵּד(kabbed)

    Literally “to become (or make) heavy”

    Have you ever encountered water in the road and said to yourself, “that’s nothing, I’ll just drive through it”? Perhaps the puddle is a little larger and you think for a moment, “I can run over that but it may result in some damage to the engine”? Or sometimes you see the creek running over the bridge rightfully conclude, “If I try to drive through that I’m going to end up DRH – dead right here!”
    To consider as weighty is NOT the same as compliance or obedience. We will see in a moment that “honor” changes over time. Honor is a term of respect more than it is a term of behavior.
    When we lived in the Welborn neighborhood of KCK we had neighbors on either side of us. The neighbors on one side, the Cunninghams, had lots of kids and did not have a fence on any side of their property. The neighbors on the other side were a retired couple, the Skwarlos. Mr. Skwarlo was protective of the property line. There was a fence between our property up until about 40’ from the street. Shortly after my 3 sisters and I moved in, the fence was extended all the way to the street. I got the hint even though he never said anything. One time after I finished mowing our lawn I notices Mr. Skwarlo with a push broom removing the grass clippings that had blown onto his driveway. From that moment forward the first 2 trips along the property line were always from North to South so that the discharge shoot would not blow onto his property.
    It wasn’t because he had blown up in outrage at me. I wasn’t afraid of him or trying to be compliant or obedient, I just noticed something that seemed important to him and I considered his preference as I went about my chores.

    Honor looks different as we mature (five Cs)

    To young children: honor looks like cheerful compliance (not “just a minute”).
    Luke 2:51 ESV:2016
    And he went down with them and came to Nazareth and was submissive to them. And his mother treasured up all these things in her heart.
    Many go quickly to Ephesians 6:1 to find a NT restatement of this law to convince their kids that it didn’t become obsolete like eating shellfish or pork. But Eph 6:1 starts with a very clear direct address, children. (This obedience is a very specific instruction that is prior to the restating of the 5th command in Eph 6:2.) Do you see yourself as a child? pay extra attention to Eph 6.1. Do you see yourself as having parents? pay extra heed to Eph 6.2.
    2. To adolescents: honor looks like contribution. Your home is not a hotel and your parents are not the servants. As you move toward maturity you owe it to your family to begin thinking “what is my contribution to the family?”
    3. As young adults: honor moves toward consultation. Do you ask for your parents’ wisdom on your college, your living conditions, your spouse?
    I recall asking my father for his opinion when I was considering changing colleges. And, although it may seem old-fashioned, I asked my parents for their input and spoke with Ann’s mother (her father had passed) before I ever proposed.
    Your mother and father are not always right, but they do know you, and they have seen more of life than you have.
    4. As a middle-aged son, I still check-in with my parents on certain decisions. i.e. I asked them to pray with me before accepting the call to become your pastor.
    5. At the end of life, when your parents are aging, honor looks like compassion-giving consideration to their (physical, emotional & spiritual) needs. As Jesus hung on the cross, he made arrangements for his mother.
    John 19:26–27 ESV:2016
    When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son!” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” And from that hour the disciple took her to his own home.
    ...and sometimes honorable compassion requires we place boundaries to keep them from harming themselves or others. Even if they don’t like it in all cases.

    When Your Parents are Wrong

    Even Jesus had to deal with this situation.
    In John 2 Jesus was attending a wedding and his mother told him when the wine ran out. Jesus replied, “What does this have to do with me?” Then Mary told the servants in essence, “I’m getting out of the way, just do whatever he says to do.”
    In Mark 3:21 larger crowds are pressing in and Jesus is so busy he doesn’t even have time to eat.
    Mark 3:21 ESV:2016
    And when his family heard it, they went out to seize him, for they were saying, “He is out of his mind.”
    4. While you are still under your parents’ authority, Daniel and the proposal about eating the King’s meat is a helpful model for making a respectful appeal to authority. Notice I said respectful appeal, not an argument!
    5. If you have left your parents’ home and cleaved to a spouse the order is a little different.
    Honor your parents by giving weight to what they say. Then decide the right course of action, remembering that your loyalty is first to God, and second, if married, to your husband or wife. Give weight to the words of each in the proportion that is due. A wise parent will see this and support it
    6. For some here today I would like to acknowledge that your parents not only made mistakes but inflicted abuse; and this is NEVER a reflection of God. But healing is possible as you choose to look away from those failures and replace them with the perfection of God’s love for you.
    TRANSITION: The 5th command is directed at the child, but implicitly parents must also consider…

    Parenting Worthy of Honor (Ephesians 6:4)

    Ephesians 6:4 ESV:2016
    Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
    I particularly like the way the NIV translates this phrase provoke to anger — it uses do not exasperate

    Negative – Do Not Provoke to Anger

    Don’t “push their buttons”
    Ephesians 3:15 teaches that family relationships flow out of the person and character of God. As the first authority figure in the life of your child, you play a huge role in shaping your child’s understanding of God.
    There is a reality that much more is caught than taught. Your children will learn much more from watching you than listening to you.
    I was impressed by the KSHSAA Rule 52 that appears on the program for all High School games. The rule basically says “If you’re here as a fan then act like a fan. If you’re here as an official then act like an official. If you’re here as a player then act like a player.
    I asked Mr. Githens for a copy of the text and he also sent me a link to an article in the Dodge City Daily Globe from Jan 15 of this year.
    If you are the mother or father of a high school athlete here in Kansas, this message is primarily for you.
    When you attend an athletic event that involves your son or daughter, cheer to your heart’s content, enjoy the camaraderie that high school sports offer and have fun. But when it comes to verbally criticizing game officials or coaches, cool it.
    Make no mistake about it. Your passion is admired, and your support of the hometown team is needed. But so is your self-control. Yelling, screaming and berating the officials humiliates your child, annoys those sitting around you, embarrasses your child’s school and is the primary reason Kansas has an alarming shortage of high school officials.
    4. What are your kids going to learn about respect for authority by listening to you talk about your boss at dinner? What are they going to learn when they see me always hit the brakes when I see a cop? What are they going to learn when they see me ordering the one-trip and going back for a refill at the salad bar?
    1’. Don’t “push your child’s button” by saying one thing and modeling another.

    Positive – Train and Instruct

    I believe training is “modeled instruction” kind of the “do-it-like-this” moments.
    There is also a place for Instructions. This is where we clearly explain what is expected.
    The way we train and teach is a reflection of God Himself.
    My favorite parenting book (besides the Bible) is Graced-based Parenting, which I highly recommend for all parents from toddlers to graduates. This is available in paper, as an e-book, or audiobook.
    Corrective and Redemptive discipline are essential to your child’s development, and discipline is described in Hebrews 12:7-8 as an act of legitimacy and love. This picture from my accountability partner in Wisconsin shows what happens when a living thing receives food and shelter without structure or discipline.

    Honor-worthy Parents know each child.

    By knowing each child and responding appropriately, you know when to correct and when to comfort.
    Many of us are familiar with Prov. 22:6
    Proverbs 22:6 ESV:2016
    Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
    3. I used to think “in the way he should go” meant “according to my determined outcomes”. The lightbulb went off in my mind when I heard a preacher say that the Hebrew behind this phrase means “according to his way, or according to his bent.”
    4. Trying to teach a homebody who prefers books, legos and computers to kill and field dress a deer will be an extra challenge. While trying to teach an energetic outdoorsman to play violin will take a special kind of patience.
    Have you ever played or watched donkey basketball? Wise competitors learned that each animal had to be treated according to its own tendencies.
    5. Just as God makes each person with a personality and unique skills, honor-worthy parents learn to shape each child according to his or her own needs.

    Conclusion:

    Parents are our first exhibit of authority and the way we respond to them says much about our response to God and all other authorities.
    Parents are to be given weight in various ways according to our stage in life.
    As parents we are to consider how our parenting will influence our children’s view of God and train them to respect authority according to their tendencies.
    For all of us, Christ is our model. He was obedient to his earthly parents. He was always submissive to the Heavenly Father’s will, even to the point of death on a wooden cross to pay for our sins.
    As the musicians retake their places, our response song is unlikely to be one that you would think would be picked to go along with this sermon, But it depicts a reality that each of us must CHOOSE TO FOLLOW. If you can’t follow your parents’ instructions, following any other authority will be a challenge.
    Anarchy doesn’t work in the home, it doesn’t work in the world, and it doesn’t work in the body of Christ. All of us are UNDER the headship of Jesus and God has placed Elders over us to protect us from our own folly. You will always be vulnerable to anarchy stealing your intimacy with God until you learn to say, “Nevertheless, not my will, but thine...”
    Song of Response #454 ..................”I Have Decided to Follow Jesus”
    Revelation 1:5–6 ESV:2016
    ...Jesus Christ the faithful witness, the firstborn of the dead, and the ruler of kings on earth. To him who loves us and has freed us from our sins by his blood and made us a kingdom, priests to his God and Father, to him be glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.

      • Luke 2:51KJV1900

      • John 19:26–27KJV1900

      • Mark 3:21ESV

      • Ephesians 6:4KJV1900

      • Proverbs 22:6KJV1900

  • I Have Decided To Follow Jesus

      • Revelation 1:5–6KJV1900

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