- INTRO - Today we look at the seventh commandment.Do not commit adultery.The ancient Near East considered adultery as the act of having sex between a married women who was not her husband.The punishment of death could be imposed.The husband has the right to determine the penalty of his wife and her lover.Pardoning his wife and her lover was not permitted.Do not murder (last week)Do not commit adultery (this week)Do not steal (next week)Adultery was considered theft from a man.Also, it took from the children and effects economic survival.Marriage is giving of oneself to one another. For this reason, married persons are “owned” or the “property” of one another:Drink water from your own cistern, water flowing from your own well.The sin of adultery is violating another persons property.In addition to stealing from a spouse, hurting the family, ruining society, and destroying the economic structure, adultery is a moral matter.Recall Abraham and Sarah, when staying in Gerar, said Sarah was his sister?King Abimelech had Sarah brought to him and the king dreamt he would die because what he had in mind was considered adultery? (remember the ancient Near East’s punishment we discussed?)Look here at the king’s response:No one in this house is greater than I am. He has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. So how could I do this immense evil, and how could I sin against God?”We see the idea of adultery is old as the word in Genesis.Through history into our time, adultery is a sin that hurts all societies.As King Abimelech of Gerar noted it is a “sin against God.”TRANS - What God says is sin, remains wrong.Even today evil desire perverts the purity of sex.Immorality can never be pure.The sexual revolution some decades back was a turn away from holiness.Today our nation is sucked into believing sex of most any sort is acceptable.News for you, what was wrong, remains wrong.Marvelous Marriage
A young lady walked into a fabric shop, went to the counter, and asked the owner for some noisy, rustling, white material. The owner found two such bolts of fabric but was rather puzzled at the young lady’s motives. Why would anyone want several yards of noisy material? Finally the owner’s curiosity got the best of him and he asked the young lady why she particularly wanted noisy cloth.
She answered: “You see, I am making a wedding gown, and my fiancé is blind. When I walk down the aisle, I want him to know when I’ve arrived at the altar, so he won’t be embarrassed.”
Such love the young woman had for her man!Marriage involves putting a spouse before one’s own desires.Marriage is a marvelous institution!Yet, the hard work to put another person first, that’s not easy!Most discussions are, “I want_________.” With little less thought given to “what will make my spouse happy?”ILL - Do you remember Mac ‘n’ Tosh?They were the early 1960’s gophers with British accents who were overly polite.One of the things I notice about lasting marriages is the degree of politeness each show one to the other.adulterateThe word adulterate means to make “impure” or “to harm.”Part of a healthy marriage is politeness while another part is purity.Marriage is not “impure” or “harmful.”God gives two people to love one another and to be there for one another.Marriage is a beautiful sacred joining of two people.Married persons “keep one another” as we often hear in marriage vows.Keep safe, well, respected, and healthy are all ways spouses can care for one another.Society today seems to have this idea that marriage is “old fashioned.”God’s first institution is not an obsolete thing.Marriage is the foundation of society given to humankind before government, civilization, and the church.Hebrew scholars tell us that when the first two people met Adam said:And the man said: This one, at last, is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called “woman,” for she was taken from man.Basically translated Adam said, “Wow!”God’s idea was to make a women, different from man, so that the two would be one together.It is most biblical for a man to say of his wife, “She completes me.”Marriage is given, created by God.TRANS - Why is it, when marriage is given to be the most wonderful institution, so many marriages are so terrible?Marred MarriageILL - A former Pinellas County Sheriff, Dennis Fowler once stated, “Adultery affects other people in the workplace, people’s ability to do their job, and I think that is relevant.”The sheriff noted adultery is not a victimless crime. It created difficulties in the department going beyond the offenders.A marriage marred by adultery hurts everyone.Sin enters a marriage and immorally is the result:Flee sexual immorality! Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the person who is sexually immoral sins against his own body.To begin with, it hurts the person who starts the process.This sin causes physical, emotional, and spiritual damage.Here is an important part of sinful disobedience.We say “break God’s Law,” when the truth of the matter is that Law breaks the person.ILL - Are you familiar with Lord Byron. He was handsome, rich, smart, and talented. He was the playboy of his time. He died diseased, lonesome, and young.His sin, like adultery, hurts the person and the home.Thousands of children in America are hurt by this sin every year.A parent after their own lust cares less for their own children. Their sole desire is their own pleasure.Adultery damages social structure, deprives psychological needs, and for children there is no longer a “mommy and daddy” nor safe and pure home example.This sin hurts the person, the children, and the church.TRANS - Marriage is ment to be marvelous, but sadly it often is marred by adultery.Not an easy topic to talk about in our society that considers sex a consensual pleasure between two people.TRANS - Talking about a marvelous marriage not so hard to discuss. A marred marriage, that’s not an easy topic.Let’s transition to something that is easier to discuss.Maintaining MarriageHUM - Do you know the story about the 3rd grade Sunday School teacher uneasy discussing the topic of adultery?The teacher opened the class asking, “Would someone please explain what adultery means?”One young student thought they had the answer stating, “Adultery is when a kind lies about their age.”Marriage is key to a pure and holy life.All about us we see the horribleness of an adulterous nation.How can we live a holy life when constantly attacked by things that compromise our purity?Let me offer up six things that can help.Decision to Follow JesusThis is first. A marriage without Jesus is a setup for a terrible time.A person in charge of their own heart will always want their will before meeting the needs of their spouse.Dependence on GodPower to live right, do right, and give to another is necessary.From where does this come?:You are from God, little children, and you have conquered them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.God is greater and our help comes from the Lord.Devotion to JesusThe Bible says:Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for herJesus gave Himself for the church.This word commands husbands to love, not leave, their wives.God says this, so it is possible, maybe not easy, but doable.Developing with AnotherWhen I lead a marriage ceremony I ask, “Will you?”Then comes the part, “as long as you both live.”I will not lead a marriage service unless I meet with the couple and have confidence that they will pray together.I even make the husband to be pray during our times together to help him gain confidence praying with his wife to be and out loud in front of other people.Discipline in LifeMake a choice for Christ, depend on Him, are devoted to Him, and then choosing to develop together.The Bible says:Flee sexual immorality! Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the person who is sexually immoral sins against his own body.“Flee” that means “run away!”Maintaining marriage requires protect one another’s heart and life choices.Determination of MindDetermination to live with the power that God provides in order to live a pure life goes a long way.Joshua had the idea:But if it doesn’t please you to worship the Lord, choose for yourselves today: Which will you worship—the gods your ancestors worshiped beyond the Euphrates River or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living? As for me and my family, we will worship the Lord.”Who will you serve?Having a firm resolve to follow God is determination.Part of maintaining a marriage involves having a firm resolve to trust in God.ConclusionPerhaps adultery has hurt your heart, home, or someone you know.Perhaps you know of a person with a bitter heart because of this sin.Let’s be reminded that God heals broken hearts.God helps the spouse, the child, and the repentant sinner who seek His help.The Bible says:If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.The sin of immorality causes great and lasting harm.Has any of this hit home?Do you need God’s help?God’s covering can make clean.Is there a sin you need to confess?Does your heart belong to God?Do you need to confess sin or ask God into your heart today?Do you His healing?(end)
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