Tim, God bless you Brother. I just had a question regarding your podcast on honouring parents. Maybe you can give me a some advice or shine some light were I stand biblically. 14 years ago I gave my life to Jesus. When my parents found out they went crazy. They did not want me going on o church or hanging around Born again bilvers. So I got through my teenage years the best I could loving God in the one hand but on the other under the authority of my mum and dad as I was only 14 and doing sinful things like partying night clubs and all that. Now this day and age I'm fully devoted follower of Christ. My parents still are not born again they don't like the fact that I am active in ministry and graduated through bible college. 1 year ago my mum and dad try to attack me, over a disagreement I was busy in Bible college doing the last two units of the program I took on double the load. I was doing pastoral ministry and hospital visits to someone from the church who's baby got sick and had a life and death situation. I was preaching and teaching also doing music on the keyboard and leading meeting in ushering. And in the middle of all this I had one of the pastors was on holiday and I had to go to work with a Buisness that I run in roof construction than in the middle of that jhave time for my 4 year old son and my lovly wife. Now they got neglected, but I was neglected also by them growing up, no love shown. Any way they try's to asult me and my wife whil my weird was pregnant. We locked our selfs in the car and drove off. A couple of moths later I tried contacting my mum. She did want nothing to do with me so I sent her a heart felt apology and so now that Iv done that that was 11 months ago since I tryied . The eldership has now stood me down from position until I reach out again to reconcile. How do I still honour them in light of all this. And is it ok that Iv been stood down until it's fixed I feel hurt by the elders. Also on top of all that we had twin girls born 6 months ago and they haven't phoned to ask about the twins or anything. How do I feel with this am I in error.
- No matter what and how your relationship is/was with your parents, whether you agree with them or not, you will always have to honor them. That is a command. As far as the elders? They are not seeing or willing to see the issue on both sides.
- Luke Kefford, I have been in similar circumstances in my younger days and can empathize with your struggles. Without being able to talk to your parents or elders, I doubt any wise person would be able to give you the answer you seek. As I said, I have had similar experiences and can tell you it would be best sense you received council from your elders, that if you have questions how to go about all this, you should be getting insight from them. They are the ones who commanded you to make the attempt with your parents. Consider the wisdom of Hebrew 13.17 Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they keep watch over your souls and will give an account for their work. Let them do this with joy and not with complaints, for this would be no advantage for you. You are no longer under the authority of your parents, yet you should be able to honor them. You are, however under the authority of your elders, and unless they are asking you to sin, your best interests and further fruitfulness in the kingdom would be best served obeying and honoring your elders.
- Thanks for the advice brothers