One of the keys to spiritual maturity is to distinguish your will from your emotions. You can control your will but not your emotions. You cannot will your emotions either to stop or to continue. It is controlled largely by your thoughts. But in Christ your will has been redeemed. You can now say Yes to God and No to everything that is not of God. Of course, it may take some time to train your will to make the right choices, but it’s now possible through Christ. Saying Yes to God’s will for you will not stop your emotions, especially if you’re hurting or sad. But by trusting God and choosing His will for you, in spite of your emotions, you will be on your way to becoming more mature. Don’t depend on your emotions to decide for you. Decide based on God’s will and trust Him regardless of your emotions.