愛家教會

耶稣是系列 #2

父亲的摇篮曲 #2

摆脱负面家庭模式 

经文：

“爱父母过于爱我的，不配做我的门徒；爱儿女过于爱我的，也不配做我的门徒。38不背起自己的十字架跟从我的，也不配做我的门徒。”

—马太福音 10:37-38

Coach K 讲道视频:

视频链接

https://youtu.be/FdEd5pmIyp8?feature=shared&t=1990

播放时间: 33:09 -55:03

今天，我们继续探索“父亲的摇篮曲”，它如何赋予我们力量去打破负面家庭循环的枷锁。通过耶稣的恩典，我们被呼召成为为家庭带来医治、喜乐和自由的人，摆脱伤害的遗产，拥抱喜乐的传承。

成为打破循环的人

“如果你被评判过，就选择理解。

如果你被拒绝过，就选择接纳。

如果你被羞辱过，就选择怜悯。”

这些话提醒我们，我们有能力阻止代际负面的传播。耶稣作为完全的神和完全的人，向我们展示了打破这些循环是可能的。他经历了拒绝、羞辱和误解，但他以爱、恩典和救赎作出回应。

正如哥林多后书 5:21 所说：“神使那无罪的替我们成为罪，好叫我们在他里面成为神的义。” 这不仅关乎个人的救赎——它也关乎通过祂的力量重新定义我们的生命和家庭。我们被呼召从医治的地方，而非痛苦的地方行动，成为我们曾经在痛苦中所需要的那个人。

打破文化循环

在耶稣的时代，希腊和罗马对家庭（familia）的看法植根于权威主义，家长掌握着家庭的绝对控制权。耶稣勇敢地挑战了这些动态。

在马太福音 10:34中，耶稣说：“你们不要以为我来是叫地上太平；我来并不是叫地上太平，乃是叫地上动刀兵。” 这听起来可能很严厉，但耶稣指的是用属灵的剑斩断罪恶和压迫性的家庭模式。他的信息不是要摧毁关系，而是要打破代际罪的枷锁——例如虐待、偏袒或基于恐惧的控制。

当耶稣在马太福音 12:48中宣告，“谁是我的母亲？谁是我的弟兄？” 他不是在拒绝自己的家人，而是重新定义神国度中的家庭。他邀请每一个人——无论他们的世俗家庭动态如何——通过与天父的关系进入一个新的、永恒的家庭。

宣告新的遗产

奉耶稣的名，我们勇敢地宣告：

“你正在打破代际的咒诅。这就是为什么事情对你来说并不那么容易。你是你的血脉所等待的人。”

你家庭的过去不必定义你的未来。有了耶稣，你可以自由地创造一个充满恩典、喜乐和爱的全新常态。

• 如果你的家庭充满愤怒，你可以选择耐心。
• 如果你在批评中长大，你可以说生命和鼓励的话语。
• 如果你的家庭因恐惧而运作，你可以凭信心和基督里的信心行走。

定义新的常态

在基督里，我们不仅被呼召去打破罪的循环，还要用喜乐和公义的遗产来取而代之。

• 育儿：
• 如果你小时候没有体验到一个温柔耐心的父母，你可以通过对孩子温柔地说话来打破这一模式。
• 财务：
• 如果你的家庭有一种贫穷心态，你可以通过信靠神的供应，明智地管理资源，并以喜乐的心给予来重新定义新的常态。

无论是关系、习惯还是态度——耶稣都赐予你力量，去定义一种新的生活方式，这种生活方式荣耀神并带来喜乐。

耶稣的血打破一切咒诅

究竟是什么打破了代际的咒诅？是羔羊的血！耶稣为我们生命中每一个罪恶模式付出了全部代价。

• 借着祂的鞭伤，我们得了医治。
• 借着祂的宝血，我们的罪得以洁净。
• 借着祂头上的荆棘冠冕，我们得了清明的心思。

耶稣的牺牲赋予了我们进入自由、医治和转变的力量。没有其他人有能力打破这些枷锁——只有耶稣能做到，而祂已经为你做到了。

结论：活在父亲的摇篮曲中

打破代际模式并不容易，但通过耶稣，这是可能的。他邀请我们停止伤害的循环，开始医治的循环。祂的摇篮曲是希望、救赎和喜乐的颂歌，呼唤你迈入一个祝福后代的新遗产。

你不再受过去错误的束缚。在耶稣里，你可以自由地创造一个以恩典、信仰和爱为基础的家庭文化。祂的血已经付清了一切代价，祂的能力装备你在胜利中生活。

让我们一起宣告：

"主啊，我将我家庭的过去交托给你。借着你的宝血，我摆脱了一切咒诅，并有能力创造一个新的喜乐和公义的遗产。谢谢你，耶稣，为我付出代价，让我有自由定义我生命和家庭中的新常态。奉你的名祷告，阿们。"

勇敢地迈入这个真理：你的家庭历史可能塑造了你，但耶稣的爱改变了你。 倾听父亲的摇篮曲，让它指引你进入充满医治、希望和喜乐的未来。

小组实践练习：打破负面的家庭模式

目标：

帮助参与者通过指导性、实践性的练习，应用打破负面家庭模式的原则，创造新的遗产。

练习 1：反思并宣告新的遗产

重点： “你正在打破代际的咒诅。这就是为什么事情对你来说并不那么容易。你是你的血脉所等待的人。”

• 第 1 步：反思：
• 给每位参与者一张纸。请他们反思自己经历过的一个负面的家庭模式（例如，恐惧、愤怒、批评），并将其写下来。
• 第 2 步：宣告：
• 请参与者写下在基督里打破这种模式的宣告（例如：“奉耶稣的名，我宣告愤怒不再定义我的家庭。我选择耐心和爱作为新的遗产。”）。
• 第 3 步：祷告：
• 围绕小组，让每个人大声读出他们的宣告，然后进行集体祷告，同意彼此获得自由和转变。

练习 2：定义新的常态

重点： “在基督里，我们不仅被呼召去打破罪的循环，还要用喜乐和公义的遗产来取代它们。”

• 第 1 步：识别模式：
• 作为一个小组讨论：你生活中的哪个领域需要定义新的常态？（例如：育儿、财务、沟通、解决冲突。）
• 第 2 步：设定目标：
• 两人一组，参与者为本周重新定义这一领域设定一个实际的目标。例如：
• 育儿： 每天对你的孩子说一句肯定的话。
• 财务： 制定一个简单的预算，并通过慷慨给予他人来实践感恩。
• 沟通： 本周在对话中更加积极地倾听。
• 第 3 步：分享与承诺：
• 让参与者与小组分享他们的目标，并为彼此的力量和喜乐祷告，帮助实现目标。

练习 3：反思耶稣的牺牲

重点： “借着祂的鞭伤，我们得了医治。借着祂的宝血，我们的罪得以洁净。借着祂头上的荆棘冠冕，我们得了清明的心思。”

• 第 1 步：视觉冥想：
• 提供一个安静的时刻，让参与者反思耶稣的牺牲。鼓励他们想象将自己的重担（负面的家庭模式、恐惧或挣扎）放在十字架脚下。
• 第 2 步：集体祷告：
• 小组一起为耶稣牺牲的各个方面祷告：
• 鞭伤得医治： 为身体、情感和属灵的医治祷告。
• 宝血得洁净： 为赦免和打破代际罪祷告。
• 荆棘得清明： 为思想的清晰、平安和力量祷告。
• 第 3 步：领受圣餐：
• 如果合适，可以作为一个小组分享圣餐，以巩固对耶稣牺牲的纪念以及祂转变生命和家庭的能力。

练习 4：活出父亲的摇篮曲

重点： “你的家庭历史可能塑造了你，但耶稣的爱改变了你。”

• 第 1 步：感恩反思：
• 请每位参与者分享他们看到上帝在自己家庭或个人生活中的转变方式。
• 第 2 步：行动计划：
• 请参与者思考本周可以在家庭或关系中活出父亲的摇篮曲的一种实际方式。例如：
• 给家庭成员写一封鼓励的信。
• 采取一个步骤与某人和解。
• 开始一个以喜乐和感恩为中心的新家庭传统。
• 第 3 步：闭幕祷告：
• 以感恩上帝的转变能力的祷告结束，并请求祂的引导，帮助参与者在日常生活中活出父亲的摇篮曲。

可选后续挑战：

鼓励参与者在本周实施这些练习时记录他们的经历。邀请他们在下次小组聚会中分享自己的反思和见证。

Agape House Fellowship

Father’s Lullaby #2

Father’s Lullaby

Breaking Free from Negative Family Patterns

2

by Coach K

Scripture:

““Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me.’” —Matthew 10:37-38

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/T8NLSIA3xRY?feature=shared

Video play time: 33:25 -1:09:00

Today, we continue exploring the Father’s Lullaby and how it empowers us to break generational cycles of negativity. Through Jesus, we are called to be the ones who bring healing, joy, and freedom to our families, leaving behind the legacy of hurt and embracing the legacy of joy.

Be the Person Who Breaks the Cycle

"If you were judged, choose understanding.

If you were rejected, choose acceptance.

If you were shamed, choose compassion."

These words remind us that we have the power to stop generational negativity in its tracks. Jesus, being fully God and fully man, showed us that breaking these cycles is possible. He experienced rejection, shame, and misunderstanding, yet He responded with love, grace, and redemption.

As 2 Corinthians 5:21 says, Jesus became sin for us so that we might become righteous in Him. This isn’t just about personal salvation—it’s about redefining our lives and our families through His power. We are called to act from a place of healing, not pain, and to be the person we needed when we were hurting.

Breaking the Cultural Cycle

In Jesus’ time, the Greek and Roman view of family (familia) was rooted in authoritarianism, with the head of the household wielding absolute control. Jesus boldly challenged these dynamics.

In Matthew 10:34, Jesus said, “Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword.” While this may sound harsh, Jesus was referring to cutting off sinful and oppressive family patterns. His message wasn’t about destroying relationships but about breaking the chains of generational sin—patterns like abuse, favoritism, or fear-based control.

When Jesus declared in Matthew 12:48, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” He wasn’t rejecting His family but was redefining family in the Kingdom of God. He was inviting everyone—regardless of their earthly family dynamics—into a new, eternal family through their relationship with the Heavenly Father.

Declare a New Legacy

In Jesus’ name, we boldly proclaim:

“You’re breaking generational curses. That’s why things don’t come so easily for you. You’re who your bloodline has been waiting for.”

Your family’s past does not have to define your future. With Jesus, you have the freedom to create a new normal filled with grace, joy, and love.

• If your family struggled with anger, you can choose patience.
• If you grew up with criticism, you can speak life and encouragement.
• If your family operated from fear, you can walk in faith and confidence in Christ.

Defining the New Normal

In Christ, we are not only called to break cycles of sin but to replace them with legacies of joy and righteousness.

• Parenting:
• If you didn’t experience a parent who spoke softly and patiently, you can choose to break that pattern by speaking with gentleness to your children.
• Finances:
• If your family lived with a poverty mindset, you can redefine the new normal by trusting in God’s provision, stewarding resources wisely, and giving generously with joy.

Whatever the area—relationships, habits, or attitudes—Jesus gives you the power to define a new way of living that honors God and brings joy.

The Blood of Jesus Breaks Every Curse

What ultimately breaks generational curses? The blood of the Lamb. Jesus paid the full price for every sinful pattern in our lives.

• Through His stripes, we have divine health.
• Through His blood, our sins are cleansed.
• Through the thorns on His head, we have a sound mind.

Jesus’ sacrifice has given us the power to step into freedom, healing, and transformation. No one else has the capacity to break these chains—only Jesus can, and He has already done it for you.

Conclusion: Living in the Father’s Lullaby

Breaking generational patterns isn’t easy, but it is possible through Jesus. He invites us to stop the cycle of hurt and begin a cycle of healing. His lullaby is one of hope, redemption, and joy, calling you to step into a new legacy that blesses generations to come.

You are not bound by the mistakes of the past. In Jesus, you are free to create a family culture of grace, faith, and love. His blood has paid the price, and His power equips you to live in victory.

Let’s make this declaration together:

"Lord, I surrender my family’s past to You. Through Your blood, I am free from every curse and empowered to create a new legacy of joy and righteousness. Thank You, Jesus, for paying the price and giving me the freedom to define a new normal in my life and family. In Your name, Amen."

Step boldly into this truth: Your family’s history may have shaped you, but Jesus’ love transforms you. Listen to the Father’s lullaby and let it guide you into a future filled with healing, hope, and joy.

Small Group Practical Exercises: Breaking Negative Family Patterns

Objective:

To help participants apply the principles of breaking negative family patterns and creating a new legacy through guided, practical exercises.

Exercise 1: Reflect and Declare a New Legacy

Focus: “You’re breaking generational curses. That’s why things don’t come so easily for you. You’re who your bloodline has been waiting for.”

• Step 1: Reflection:
• Provide each participant with a piece of paper. Ask them to reflect on a negative family pattern they’ve experienced (e.g., fear, anger, criticism) and write it down.
• Step 2: Declaration:
• Have participants write a declaration in Christ to break that pattern (e.g., “In Jesus’ name, I declare that anger will no longer define my family. I choose patience and love as the new legacy.”).
• Step 3: Prayer:
• Go around the group and have each person read their declaration aloud, followed by a group prayer of agreement for freedom and transformation.

Exercise 2: Defining a New Normal

Focus: “In Christ, we are not only called to break cycles of sin but to replace them with legacies of joy and righteousness.”

• Step 1: Identifying a Pattern:
• Discuss as a group: What is one area of your life where you feel called to define a new normal? (Examples: parenting, finances, communication, conflict resolution.)
• Step 2: Goal Setting:
• In pairs, have participants set one practical goal for this week to redefine that area. For example:
• Parenting: Speak a word of affirmation to your child daily.
• Finances: Create a simple budget and practice generosity by giving to someone in need.
• Communication: Resolve to listen more actively in conversations this week.
• Step 3: Share and Commit:
• Have participants share their goals with the group and pray over one another for strength and joy in carrying them out.

Exercise 3: Reflecting on Jesus’ Sacrifice

Focus: “Through His stripes, we have divine health. Through His blood, our sins are cleansed. Through the thorns on His head, we have a sound mind.”

• Step 1: Visual Meditation:
• Provide a quiet moment where participants can reflect on the sacrifice of Jesus. Encourage them to visualize laying their burdens (negative family patterns, fears, or struggles) at the foot of the cross.
• Step 2: Group Prayer:
• As a group, pray through each aspect of Jesus’ sacrifice:
• Stripes for health: Pray for physical, emotional, and spiritual healing.
• Blood for cleansing: Pray for forgiveness and breaking generational sins.
• Thorns for a sound mind: Pray for clarity, peace, and strength in thoughts.
• Step 3: Communion:
• If appropriate, share communion as a group to solidify the remembrance of Jesus’ sacrifice and His power to transform lives and families.

Exercise 4: Living the Father’s Lullaby

Focus: “Your family’s history may have shaped you, but Jesus’ love transforms you.”

• Step 1: Gratitude Reflection:
• Have each participant share one way they’ve seen God’s transformation in their family or personal life.
• Step 2: Action Plan:
• Ask participants to think of one practical way they can live out the Father’s lullaby this week in their family or relationships. Examples:
• Writing a letter of encouragement to a family member.
• Taking a step to reconcile with someone.
• Starting a new family tradition centered on joy and gratitude.
• Step 3: Closing Prayer:
• End with a prayer of thanksgiving for God’s transformative power and a request for guidance as participants live out the Father’s lullaby in their daily lives.

Optional Follow-Up Challenge:

Throughout the week, encourage participants to journal their experiences as they implement these exercises. Ask them to share their reflections and testimonies in the next small group meeting.

愛家教會

耶稣是系列 #9

耶稣是

耶稣是我的心思意念

如何克服负面思想

经文：

"“因为神赐给我们的，不是胆怯的心，乃是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。”

—提摩太后书 1:7

Coach K 讲道视频:

视频链接

https://youtu.be/FdEd5pmIyp8?feature=shared

播放时间: 00:00 - 33:09

想象一下，一个名叫Ashley的三岁小女孩站在浴室里，自信满满地唱着：“我喜欢我的家，我能做好任何事，比任何人都好！”她的母亲录下了这一幕，上传到网络后，2200万观众观看了这段视频。有人评论说：“她太小了，根本不懂自己在说什么。”但你觉得她真的没有健全的心思吗？

圣经在提摩太后书 1:7中告诉我们：“因为神赐给我们的，不是胆怯的心，乃是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。”那么，什么是健全的心思？这是一颗经过耶稣基督拯救、复苏、保护和安稳的心。我们的心思意念因耶稣的宝血得救赎，并借着圣灵的能力被圣化。

健全的心思需要时间

许多基督徒期望在受洗后立即完全改变，但有时候健全的心思并不会马上显现。虽然神的应许是真实的，但祂可能允许我们在与基督同行的过程中，逐渐发展出健全的心思。这是一个与基督的受苦和救赎同行的旅程。耶稣曾说：“所以你们要完全，像你们的天父完全一样。”（马太福音 5:48）。这是一种救赎的过程，而其中一个重要部分就是要战胜和克服负面思想。

真实生活情境：卡尔的负面思想

让我们看一个现实生活的例子。卡尔是一名学生，在一次作业中得了C。他立刻开始想：“我会考砸所有的考试。”“我不是个好考生。”“我很笨。”“我应该尽量避免考试。”随着时间的推移，这种想法越发严重。当卡尔去参加他第一次求职面试或约女生出去时，这些想法依然困扰着他：“反正我会失败。”

卡尔正经历我们所说的负面自我标记，即过度概括，把在某个领域的失败延伸到生活的所有方面。圣经中称这种情况为因内疚和羞耻产生的自我定罪。内疚来源于我们内心，而羞耻往往来自外部的压力——社会、文化或家庭。两者都会导致以表现为驱动的生活，让我们觉得自己必须完美才能被接受。

过度概括的种子

负面的自我标记就像一颗种子。一旦种下，它会不断生长，最终占据我们的心思意念。它让我们基于一次失败，做出广泛的、伤害性的结论。例如：

• 过滤：你只关注情况中的负面部分，忽略所有正面的结果。
• 个人化：当发生不好的事情时，你会自动归咎于自己，即使这并不是完全你的错。

如何通过耶稣克服负面思想

那么，我们如何通过神的救赎大能克服这些负面思想呢？一个有力的例子来自于Shammah Gara，她是一名基督徒女孩，也是牧师的女儿。在她的书《Neither Do I》中，她分享了自己未婚先孕的经历。尽管她选择不堕胎，但她几个月来一直背负着深深的羞耻和悲伤，同时在外界面前装作坚强。然而，这个故事不仅仅是她的跌倒，它更是关于耶稣如何恢复她，医治她，并带给她救恩和力量。

就像在约翰福音 8:11中被抓的淫妇，耶稣为Shammah站了起来。当所有人都想定罪那位女人时，耶稣弯下腰，静静地在地上写字。他没有参与那些充满内疚和羞耻的指控。他反而站出来，抵挡了别人强加给她的负面标签。

耶稣为我们的健全心思而战

当我们把负面思想带到耶稣面前，并宣告祂是我们的健全心思时，祂会做一些极其有力的事。耶稣不仅为我们的罪而死，祂还战胜了因内疚和羞耻而产生的负面思想。耶稣为你我挺身而出，选择在指控面前保持沉默，以便让我们得以自由。“如今，那些在基督耶稣里的就不定罪了。”（罗马书 8:1）。

敌人不断试图让我们陷入羞耻，因为他知道羞耻会让我们与神的爱隔绝。但是当我们来到耶稣面前，祂为我们与神的亲密关系而战。在敬拜中，我们练习将所有负面思想交托，允许圣灵引导我们，进入没有任何事物能将我们与基督的爱隔绝的地方（罗马书 8:38-39）。

克服负面思想的步骤：

1. 识别谎言：像卡尔一样，我们需要识别何时在过度概括或负面标记自己。找到这种思想的根源，并把它带到耶稣面前。
2. 在基督里宣告健全的心思：记住，神赐给我们的不是胆怯的心，而是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。在怀疑或内疚时，宣告这个真理在你生命中。
3. 使内疚和羞耻的声音沉默：正如耶稣让人群在羞辱那个女人时沉默下来，我们也可以通过专注于耶稣的爱与饶恕，来让内疚和羞耻的声音安静下来。
4. 在战斗中敬拜：在敬拜中，我们承认耶稣比以往任何时候都更接近，祂为我们的心思和我们的平安而战。把每一个负面思想都放在祂的脚下。

结论：

耶稣是你的健全心思。当负面思想涌现时，记住祂已经为你的心思而战并赢得胜利。来到祂面前，与祂站在一起，让圣灵引导你进入健全、得赎、并完全恢复的心思。当你软弱时，祂刚强，祂完美的力量为你工作。

小组活动: "通过耶稣更新我们的心思意念"

目标:

帮助参与者识别并克服负面思想，通过团契、祷告和实际应用，用神的话语更新心思意念，培养健全的心思。

重点经文:

提摩太后书 1:7 - “因为神赐给我们的，不是胆怯的心，乃是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。”

所需材料:

• 索引卡或纸片
• 笔
• 圣经或圣经应用程序
• 一张大海报纸或白板

活动流程:

1. 开场讨论 (10 分钟):

• 引导问题: 问小组：“你常常挣扎的一个负面思想是什么？”
• 鼓励每个人简短分享。
• 解释说我们每个人都会面临负面思想，但耶稣赐给我们克服它们的力量，并使我们拥有健全的心思意念。

2. 识别负面思想 (10 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 给每个人分发索引卡或纸片和笔。
• 步骤 2: 让每个人写下一个他们常常挣扎的负面思想（例如，“我不够好”，“我总是失败”，“没有人关心我”）。
• 步骤 3: 参与者可以选择保密，或者根据自己的舒适度与小组分享。

3. 圣经真理交换 (15 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 把大家两两分组，或分成3-4人的小组。
• 步骤 2: 小组一起查找圣经中直接针对这些负面思想的经文。例如：
• “我不够好” → 以弗所书 2:10 - “我们原是他的工作，在基督耶稣里造成的。”
• “我总是失败” → 腓立比书 4:13 - “我靠着那加给我力量的，凡事都能做。”
• “没有人关心我” → 罗马书 8:38-39 - “没有什么能使我们与神的爱隔绝。”
• 步骤 3: 让每个参与者写下与他们的负面思想相对的经文。鼓励他们这样宣告：“我不再相信[负面思想]，我将持守[圣经真理]。”

4. 共同更新心思意念 (15 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 让大家回到一起，读出他们选择的正面经文（不需要分享负面思想，除非他们愿意）。
• 步骤 2: 使用海报纸或白板创建一个“我们持守的真理”列表。把每个人的经文写下来，作为对神话语的宣告。
• 步骤 3: 安静祷告几分钟，求耶稣更新我们的心思意念，用祂的真理代替消极思想，并引导我们进入健全的心思。

5. 祷告和鼓励 (10 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 围成一个圈，邀请愿意的人祷告，感谢神的真理，祈求力量克服负面思想。
• 步骤 2: 以祝福祷告结束，宣告提摩太后书 1:7，求神赐给每个人力量、仁爱和健全的心思。

6. 带回家的挑战:

• 鼓励每个参与者将他们选择的经文贴在可见的地方（例如镜子上、手机提醒里、或日记本上），并在这一周每天默想。
• 下周询问小组成员，这一周他们如何通过默想这节经文来对抗负面思想，并体验耶稣的平安。

总结:

这个活动帮助我们实践将每一个负面思想都带到神的话语面前（哥林多后书 10:5）。通过小组中的圣经学习和共同更新心思意念，我们学会了以耶稣基督的爱和力量生活，拥有健全的心思意念。

Agape House Fellowship

Jesus Is Series #9

"Jesus is My Sound Mind"

How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

by Coach K

Scripture:

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”

2 Timothy 1:7

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/FdEd5pmIyp8?feature=shared

Video play time: 00:00 -33:09

Imagine a 3-year-old girl named Ashley standing in her bathroom, singing confidently, “I like my whole house, I can do anything good and better than anyone!” Her mother captured the moment, and 22 million people watched the video. Some commented, “She’s too young to know what she’s saying.” But does she have a sound mind? What do you think?

The Bible tells us in 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” So what is a sound mind? It is a mind that has been delivered, rescued, revived, and made secure through Jesus Christ. Our minds are redeemed by the blood of Jesus and sanctified by the power of His Spirit.

A Sound Mind Takes Time

While many Christians expect an immediate transformation after being baptized, sometimes the sound mind doesn’t come instantly. God’s promise is true, but He may allow the process of developing a sound mind to be part of our walk with Christ. It is a journey where we share in Christ’s suffering and redemption. Jesus said, “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect” (Matthew 5:48). It’s a redeeming process, and part of that process is battling and overcoming negative thoughts.

Real-Life Scenario: Carl’s Negative Thoughts

Let’s take a real-life example. Carl is a student who got a C on his homework. Immediately, he starts thinking, “I’m going to fail everything,” or “I’m not a good test taker. I’m stupid. I’ll avoid taking tests altogether.” This thought grows over time, and when Carl goes for his first job interview or tries to ask a girl out, the same thoughts hold him back: “I’ll fail anyway.”

Carl is struggling with what we call negative self-labeling—a tendency to overgeneralize, assuming that failures in one area mean failures in every area. Biblically, this is called self-condemnation through guilt and shame. Guilt comes from inside us, while shame often comes from external pressures—society, culture, or family. Both can lead to performance-driven lives, making us feel that we have to be perfect to be accepted.

The Seeds of Overgeneralization

Negative self-labeling is like a seed. Once planted, it grows and can overtake our minds. It makes us draw broad, harmful conclusions about our worth or abilities based on a single failure. For example:

• Filtering: You focus only on the negative aspects of a situation, ignoring any positive outcomes.
• Personalizing: When something bad happens, you automatically blame yourself, even if it’s not entirely your fault.

Overcoming Negative Thoughts Through Jesus

So how do we overcome these negative thoughts through God’s redeeming power? One powerful example comes from Shammah Gara, a Christian girl and pastor’s daughter. In her book “Neither Do I,” she shares her experience of becoming pregnant out of wedlock. Despite choosing not to have an abortion, she carried deep shame and sorrow for months while putting on a brave face for the world. Inside, she was broken. But this story is not just about her fall—it’s about how Jesus restored her, healed her, and brought her salvation and strength.

Just like the woman caught in adultery in John 8:11, Jesus stood up for Shammah. When everyone wanted to condemn the woman, Jesus bent down and quietly wrote in the dirt. He didn’t engage in the accusations of guilt and shame. He fought against the negative self-labeling that others were trying to impose on her.

Jesus Fights for Our Sound Mind

When we bring our negative thoughts to Jesus and claim Him as our sound mind, He does something powerful. Not only did Jesus die for our sins, but He also battled the negative thoughts that come from guilt and shame. Jesus took a stand for you and me, choosing to be silent in the face of accusations so that we might be free. “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).

The enemy works overtime to keep us in shame because he knows that shame separates us from God’s love. But when we come to Jesus, He fights for our intimacy with God. In worship, we practice surrendering our negative thoughts, allowing the Holy Spirit to lead us to a place where nothing can separate us from the love of Christ (Romans 8:38-39).

Steps to Overcoming Negative Thoughts:

1. Recognize the Lie: Just like Carl, we must recognize when we are overgeneralizing or labeling ourselves negatively. Identify the root of the thought and bring it to Jesus.
2. Claim a Sound Mind in Christ: Remember that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. In moments of doubt or guilt, declare this truth over your life.
3. Silence the Voices of Guilt and Shame: Just as Jesus silenced the crowd when they tried to shame the woman, we can silence the voices of guilt and shame by focusing on Jesus’ love and forgiveness.
4. Worship Through the Battle: In worship, we acknowledge that Jesus is closer than ever, fighting for our minds and our peace. Lay down every negative thought at His feet.

Conclusion:

Jesus is your sound mind. When negative thoughts arise, remember that He has already fought and won the battle for your mind. Come to Him, stand with Him, and let His Spirit guide you into the fullness of a sound, redeemed, and restored mind. When you are weak, He is strong, and His perfect power works for you.

Small Group Activity: "Renewing Our Minds with Jesus"

Objective:

To help participants recognize and overcome negative thoughts by renewing their minds with the truth of God’s Word, fostering a sound mind through fellowship, prayer, and practical application.

Scripture Focus:

2 Timothy 1:7 - “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”

Materials Needed:

• Index cards or pieces of paper
• Pens
• Bible or Bible app
• A large poster board or whiteboard

Activity Breakdown:

1. Opening Discussion (10 minutes):

• Question to Start: Ask the group, "What is a negative thought that you often struggle with?"
• Encourage everyone to share briefly.
• Explain that we all face negative thoughts, but Jesus gives us the power to overcome them and live with a sound mind.

2. Identifying Negative Thoughts (10 minutes):

• Step 1: Hand out index cards or pieces of paper and pens to everyone.
• Step 2: Ask each person to write down one recurring negative thought that they struggle with (e.g., “I’m not good enough,” “I always fail,” “Nobody cares about me”).
• Step 3: Let participants keep this thought private (if they choose) or share it with the group, depending on their comfort level.

3. Scripture Truth Swap (15 minutes):

• Step 1: Pair people up or divide them into small groups of 3-4.
• Step 2: As a group, look up Bible verses that speak directly to the negative thoughts written down. Some examples could be:
• “I’m not good enough” → Ephesians 2:10 - “For we are God’s masterpiece.”
• “I always fail” → Philippians 4:13 - “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
• “Nobody cares about me” → Romans 8:38-39 - “Nothing can separate us from the love of God.”
• Step 3: Have each participant write down the scripture that directly counters their negative thought. Encourage them to speak the truth over themselves: “Instead of believing [negative thought], I will hold onto [scripture truth].”

4. Renewing Our Minds Together (15 minutes):

• Step 1: Bring everyone together and ask them to read their positive scripture aloud (without needing to share their negative thought if they prefer).
• Step 2: As a group, use the poster board or whiteboard to create a list of “Truths We Hold Onto.” Write down everyone’s scriptures as a declaration of God’s truth.
• Step 3: Spend a few moments in quiet prayer, asking Jesus to renew your minds, replace negativity with His truth, and guide you into a sound mind.

5. Prayer and Encouragement (10 minutes):

• Step 1: Gather in a circle and invite anyone who feels led to pray, thanking God for His truth and asking for strength to overcome negative thoughts.
• Step 2: Close with a prayer of blessing, declaring 2 Timothy 1:7 over the group and asking God to give each person the power, love, and sound mind promised in His Word.

6. Take-Home Challenge:

• Encourage each participant to post their chosen scripture somewhere visible during the week (e.g., on a mirror, in a phone reminder, or on a journal) and reflect on it daily.
• Next week, ask the group to share how focusing on that scripture helped them counter negative thoughts and experience Jesus' peace.

Conclusion:

This activity helps us practice bringing every negative thought captive to the truth of God’s Word (2 Corinthians 10:5). By focusing on scripture and renewing our minds together as a small group, we learn to live with a sound mind, anchored in the love and power of Jesus Christ.

Agape House Fellowship

Jesus Is Series #8

"Jesus is More Than Enough 2 

- Finding Abundance in Christ"

by Coach K

Scripture:

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

2 Corinthians 12:9

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/B4tPV_147Jw?feature=shared&t=1505

Video play time: 25:05 -43:15

We often question if we have enough—enough time, resources, and even love. But when we embrace that Jesus is more than enough, we gain a new perspective on abundance, rooted in His grace and strength.

Time: How Much Time is Enough?

A common challenge during the pandemic was the tension between parents and young people over time spent on video games or social media. Many struggled with procrastination, feeling unmotivated or even overwhelmed. It’s estimated that around 25-30% of young people deal with procrastination, often because they’re waiting for the perfect moment to act. But Jesus reminds us in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

Instead of waiting for the ideal circumstances, we can turn to Jesus, acknowledging that we aren’t perfect, and allowing His strength to fill those gaps. When we say, “Jesus, I delight in my weakness through You. When I am weak, I am strong,” we invite His presence into our daily lives. He will help us prioritize what truly matters and empower us to overcome procrastination.

Stephen Covey once said, “Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” When we lean on Jesus, He helps us focus on the important things, shifting our priorities to align with His purpose for our lives.

Treasure: How Much Money is Enough?

Many of us wonder, “How much money is enough?” We’re surrounded by messages that tell us to accumulate more, but Jesus teaches us a different way. In Matthew 13:12, He says, “Whoever has, to him more shall be given…” This passage highlights the importance of being faithful with what we have.

Being faithful in the little things means managing our finances wisely, paying off debts, and living within our means. Giving to God and providing for our families are acts of trust, acknowledging that God is our ultimate provider. As we honor Him with our resources, He blesses us, often in ways beyond just financial gain. This isn’t about accumulating wealth, but about building habits that reflect our trust in God.

Relationships: Jesus is Our More Than Enough

In relationships, we sometimes feel like we’re not enough, or that others aren’t enough for us. These feelings can lead to a sense of inadequacy or frustration. But Jesus invites us to find our identity in Him. We are called to a spiritual rebirth through His love, which empowers us to love ourselves and others fully.

2 Corinthians 12:10 reminds us that in our weaknesses, insults, hardships, and persecutions, we find strength in Jesus. He is the one who loves us unconditionally and offers us the security we seek. When we trust that He is more than enough, we can approach relationships with grace, knowing that His love fills every gap.

The Key to Living “More Than Enough”

We’re called to battle the inner voices that tell us we’re not enough. Jesus meets us in our weaknesses and shows us that we are His beloved, empowered to live a life of abundance. In time, treasure, and relationships, Jesus is more than enough for every need we have. When we recognize our limitations, that’s where His sufficiency shines the brightest. His grace is made perfect in our weaknesses, guiding us to live purposefully and faithfully each day.

So, let’s choose to heed Jesus’ voice, embracing His promise that He is more than enough in every area of our lives. Whether we feel we lack time, resources, or love, we can trust in His strength and provision. Through Christ, we find that we truly have all we need, and much more besides.

Small Group Discussion: Applying “Jesus is More Than Enough” in Real-Life Scenarios

Introduction: Jesus calls us to recognize that He is more than enough for all our needs. Let’s discuss how to apply this truth in real-life situations, focusing on time, finances, and relationships.

Discussion Questions:

1 Time: Overcoming Procrastination

• Scenario: Sarah is a college student who often procrastinates on her assignments. She waits for the “right” mood to study, but ends up spending hours on social media instead. This leaves her feeling overwhelmed and anxious.
• Discussion: How could Sarah apply the principle of 2 Corinthians 12:9, acknowledging her weakness and trusting in Jesus' strength, to manage her time better? What steps can she take to prioritize her studies this week?

2 Treasure: Faithfulness in Financial Stewardship

• Scenario: Mike recently started a job and is struggling to make ends meet. He wants to save and give but feels like he barely has enough to cover his expenses.
• Discussion: How can Mike apply Matthew 13:12, focusing on being faithful with what he has? Discuss small steps Mike can take to steward his finances and trust that Jesus will provide for his needs.

3 Relationships: Finding Security in Jesus

• Scenario: Emily often feels like she’s not enough in her friendships, constantly worrying that people don’t like her or that she has to prove herself.
• Discussion: How can Emily embrace her identity in Christ as described in Ephesians 2:10, finding her worth in Jesus rather than in others’ opinions? What practical ways can she remind herself that Jesus’ love is more than enough?

Practical Application: Each of these situations presents challenges in trusting Jesus. Share one action you can take this week to apply these biblical principles in your life.

Conclusion: Close in prayer, asking God to show His sufficiency in every area. Encourage one another to trust that Jesus is more than enough for every need and situation.

愛家教會

耶稣是系列 #6

耶稣是

耶稣是我的一切

经文：

"神能照着运行在我们心里的大力，充充足足地成就一切，超过我们所求所想的。"—以弗所书 3:20

Coach K 讲道视频:

视频链接

https://youtu.be/B4tPV_147Jw?feature=shared

Video play time: 00:00 -25:05

在人生中，我们常常挣扎于这样的问题：“我是否足够？”或“我什么时候才会有足够？”这些问题影响着我们的关系、时间和财物。然而，真理是：耶稣在我们生命的每个方面都远远超过足够。

关系：“我够好吗？”

我们常常在关系中感到不够，问自己“我是否足够好？”或“我是否做得够多？”有时，我们甚至到了无法继续宽恕的地步。可是，耶稣教导我们完全地去爱，并像祂一样饶恕我们。他提醒我们，我们是神的杰作，受造是为了祂的美好工作（以弗所书 2:10）。我们的身份不是基于别人是否认为我们够好，而是基于我们在基督里的重生。每天的顺服使我们经历属灵的重生，使我们有能力去爱和饶恕。

时间：“时间够用吗？”

我们常常面对有限的时间压力，感到无法完成所有任务。但耶稣邀请我们将时间交托给祂，信靠祂使万事相互效力，为我们带来益处（罗马书 8:28）。关键不是我们有多少时间，而是我们如何为神的目的使用它。我们用于事奉神和爱他人的时间变得丰富，充满了祂超越人理解的平安（腓立比书 4:7）。

财宝：“财富够吗？”

我们总是被告知需要更多财富才能满足，然而，耶稣告诉我们，真正的财富不是来自物质上的满足，而是存在于天上。我们被召唤去爱神和爱他人（马太福音 22:37-39）。耶稣的平安来自认识祂是我们真正的满足来源，而不是世俗的财富。

见证：耶稣对丹尼尔来说远远足够

丹尼尔出生时患有22q11基因缺陷，面对许多常人难以想象的挑战。尽管如此，他追求自己的兴趣，如科技和冒险，并且最终实现了跳伞的梦想。在整个过程中，他的家人从未放弃，一直信靠耶稣是足够的。如今，丹尼尔在特斯拉工作，继续追寻他的梦想。他的故事是一个有力的见证，证明当我们信靠耶稣时，祂能做超乎我们所求所想的事。

耶稣对“我够好吗？”的回答

1. 我们是祂的杰作（以弗所书 2:10）：
2. 耶稣告诉我们，“你是我的杰作，受造是为了美好的工作。”这不是指我们在世俗意义上的足够，而是指我们在祂里面的属灵重生。我们的价值不在于我们的能力或成就，而在于我们在基督里成为新的受造物，按照祂的旨意而行。
3. 通过耶稣的属灵重生（以弗所书 2:8）：
4. 耶稣邀请我们进入一个每日更新的属灵重生过程。这不是一次性的事件，而是每日与祂同行的旅程。每天，当我们顺服祂的旨意并跟随祂的引导时，我们正在被塑造成神创造我们时的样子。
5. 神在我们生命中的创造性能力（罗马书 8:28）：
6. 当我们将自由意志交给神的完美旨意时，祂可以在我们的生活中施行创造性的奇迹。即使在最艰难的环境中，耶稣也展示了祂远远足够，能够使一切为那些爱祂的人效力，带来益处。
7. 爱是最大的诫命（马太福音 22:37-39）：
8. 在“足够”的核心是爱——爱神和爱他人。耶稣说，最大的诫命就是全心全意地爱神，并像爱自己一样爱邻舍。这种爱赋予我们丰盛的生命。耶稣是足够的，让我们能够活出这些诫命，充满祂的爱，并让这爱溢出到他人生命中。

生活在“足够”的关键

当我们承认自己不够的那一刻，耶稣就进来了。这不是靠自己的力量去达到足够，而是安息在这样的真理中：耶稣对我们来说是远远足够的。这种视角的转变改变了一切，从我们如何看待关系、时间和财宝，到我们如何看待自己在神眼中的身份。

小组讨论：耶稣是足够的

引言： 威廉·布莱克曾说：“除非你知道什么是‘远远超越’，否则你永远不知道什么是‘足够’。” 这个想法挑战我们去思考，是否真正认识到耶稣远远超越我们一切需求。让我们探讨耶稣如何满足并超越我们的期望。

讨论问题：

1反思“足够”的领域：

• 在你生活的哪些领域（关系、时间或资源）你感到不够？你通常如何填补这些空缺？
• 认识到耶稣是足够的，会如何改变你对这些领域的看法？

2经文讨论：

• 阅读 腓立比书 4:19: “我的神必照他荣耀的丰富，在基督耶稣里，使你们一切所需用的都充足。”
• 这节经文如何回应你在感到不足时的挣扎？
• 阅读 哥林多后书 12:9: “我的恩典够你用的，因为我的能力是在人的软弱上显得完全。”
• 讨论耶稣的恩典如何在你生命中显得足够，特别是在软弱或不足的地方。

3实际应用：

• 当我们感到不足时，如何提醒自己耶稣远远足够？分享一些可以在生活中更信靠耶稣的实际步骤。

4见证反思：

• 回顾丹尼尔的故事，他通过基督的力量克服了身体上的挑战，实现了自己的梦想。你生活中的哪些领域需要像丹尼尔一样信靠耶稣？

总结： 一起祷告，求神帮助我们在生活的每个领域体验到祂的充足。鼓励彼此优先寻求耶稣，相信祂能满足我们一切的需要。

Agape House Fellowship

Jesus Is Series #7

"Jesus is More Than Enough -1"

by Coach K

Scripture:

"Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us."

Ephesians 3:20

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/B4tPV_147Jw?feature=shared

Video play time: 00:00 -25:05

In life, we often struggle with questions like, “Am I enough?” or “When will I have enough?” These questions affect our relationships, time, and treasures. Whether we are searching for fulfillment in love, chasing success, or seeking peace, the truth is this: Jesus is more than enough for us in every aspect of our lives.

Relationships: “Am I Enough?”

Many times in relationships, we may feel inadequate. We ask, "Am I good enough?" or "Have I done enough?" Or perhaps we're on the other side, feeling like we've had enough. We might reach the point where forgiveness feels impossible, or we’re ready to give up. But remember, Jesus teaches us to love fully and forgive as He forgave us. He reminds us that we are God’s masterpiece, created for His good works (Ephesians 2:10). Our identity isn’t shaped by whether we are “enough” for someone else, but by our rebirth in Christ. Through daily obedience, we live out a spiritual rebirth that strengthens us to love and forgive.

Time: “Do I Have Enough Time?”

The pressure to accomplish everything within a limited time is a common challenge. We constantly ask, "Is there enough time?" But Jesus invites us to surrender our time to Him, trusting that He makes all things work for good (Romans 8:28). It’s not about how much time we have, but how we use it for God's purposes. The time we dedicate to serving Him and loving others becomes abundant time, filled with His peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

Treasure: “How Much is Enough?”

How much money or success is enough? Society often tells us we need more to be satisfied, but Jesus tells us that true treasure is not found in material wealth. Instead, our treasure is in Heaven, where we are called to love God and love others (Matthew 22:37-39). Jesus’ peace comes from recognizing that He is our true source of fulfillment, not worldly riches.

Testimony: Jesus is More Than Enough for Daniel

Daniel, who was born with Velo Cardio Facial Syndrome, faced challenges that many would consider overwhelming. Despite his struggles, Daniel pursued his passions, such as technology and adventure, and even achieved his dream of skydiving. Through it all, his family never gave up, trusting Jesus to be more than enough. Today, Daniel works at Tesla and continues to pursue his dreams. His story is a powerful reminder that Jesus can do more than we can imagine when we trust Him.

Jesus’ Answer to “Am I Enough?”

1. We Are His Masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10):

Jesus answers, "You are My masterpiece, created for good works." This isn’t about whether we’re good enough in a worldly sense—it’s about the spiritual rebirth we experience in Him. Our worth is not found in our abilities or achievements but in the fact that we are new creations in Christ, called for His purpose.

2. Spiritual Rebirth Through Jesus (Ephesians 2:8):

Jesus invites us to a daily process of spiritual rebirth. This isn’t a one-time event but a daily walk with Him. Each day, as we submit to His will and follow His leading, we are being transformed into the person God created us to be.

3. God’s Creative Power in Us (Romans 8:28):

When we submit our free will to God’s perfect will, He can perform creative miracles in our lives. Even in the hardest circumstances, Jesus shows us that He is more than enough to turn everything into good for those who love Him. He doesn’t just fix our problems; He makes us thrive through them.

4. Love Is the Greatest Commandment (Matthew 22:37-39):

At the heart of being "enough" is love—loving God and loving others. Jesus says the greatest commandment is to love God with all our heart, soul, and mind and to love our neighbor as ourselves. This love empowers us to live fruitfully and fully. Jesus is more than enough for us to live out these commandments, filling us with His love so that we can overflow into the lives of others.

The Key to Living “More Than Enough”

The moment we recognize that we are not enough is the moment Jesus steps in. It’s not about striving to be enough in our own strength but resting in the truth that Jesus is more than enough for us. This shift in perspective changes everything, from how we approach our relationships, time, and treasures to how we see ourselves in God’s eyes.

Small Group Discussion: Jesus is More Than Enough

Introduction: William Blake once said, "You never know what is enough unless you know what is more than enough." This thought challenges us to consider where we seek fulfillment and whether we truly know that Jesus is more than enough for us. Let's explore how Jesus can meet our needs and exceed our expectations.

Discussion Questions:

1.Reflect on Areas of “Enough”:

• Are there areas in your life (relationships, time, or resources) where you feel you don’t have enough? How do you typically try to fill these gaps?
• How can recognizing that Jesus is more than enough change your approach in these areas?

2.Scripture Discussion:

• Read Philippians 4:19: "And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus."
• How does this scripture speak to your personal struggles with feeling like you don’t have enough?
• Read 2 Corinthians 12:9: "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."
• Discuss how Jesus’ grace has been sufficient in your life or could be in areas of weakness or inadequacy.

3.Practical Application:

• How can we daily remind ourselves that Jesus is more than enough, even when we feel like we’re lacking? Share practical steps you can take to trust Jesus more in specific areas of your life.

4.Testimony Reflection:

• Reflect on the story of Daniel, who overcame physical challenges and pursued his dreams through Christ’s strength. What areas in your life do you need to trust Jesus as more than enough, just like Daniel did?

Conclusion: Pray together, asking God to help you experience His sufficiency in every area of life. Encourage one another to seek Jesus first, trusting that He is more than enough to meet all your needs.