愛家教會

《不计后果的爱 #3》

困境中的胜利：

教练 K

经文：

“爱 里 没 有 惧 怕 ； 爱 既 完 全 ， 就 把 惧 怕 除 去 。 因 为 惧 怕 里 含 着 刑 罚 ， 惧 怕 的 人 在 爱 里 未 得 完 全 。’” ——約 翰 一 書 4:18

教练 K 的信息视频：

https://youtu.be/8efgomBPD0I?feature=shared

视频播放时间：00:00 - 25:03

我想和你们分享一个关于神的不计后果的爱如何带领我们走向胜利的讯息，即使我们感到困扰或迷失。想象一下：舞台已经搭建好，一架美丽的钢琴静静地坐在中央，观众已经就座，灯光亮起，帷幕拉开。但等一下——小汤米站在舞台上，完全忽视了舞台入口处的“禁止公众进入”标志。他只是个孩子，好奇而充满活力，在任何人阻止之前，他开始弹奏《小星星》。

你可以想象，小汤米的父母立刻慌了，觉得他会在观众面前出丑。但接着，发生了出人意料的事情。大师钢琴家走了进来，他没有责备小汤米，而是对他说：“别停，继续弹。”于是，小汤米继续弹奏他简单的歌曲，而大师钢琴家加入其中，技艺高超，巧妙地用高低音与汤米的旋律相互配合。原本的小错误，原本的失误，竟然转变成了一段美妙的四手联弹，成为一首难忘的即兴之作。

当不计后果的爱引领我们走上错误的舞台

在某种程度上，我们都能与汤米产生共鸣。生活有时让我们觉得自己走上了错误的舞台，犯了错，或者做了鲁莽的决定。我们觉得自己在别人面前出丑或者搞砸了。而且，就像汤米一样，我们每个人都有过那些让恐惧占据生活中心的时刻——害怕失败，害怕丢脸，害怕永远不够好。 但爱与其反面不是恨，而是恐惧。恐惧让我们停滞不前，让我们退缩。恐惧让我们无法大胆行动或踏入未知的领域。

神呼召我们用不计后果的爱来面对这种恐惧。圣经中多少次提到“不要惧怕”或“不要灰心”？在圣经中，神告诉我们不要害怕的地方有365次，也许是为了让我们每天都能听到。1约翰4:18中说，“爱里没有惧怕，完美的爱驱除惧怕。”

当不计后果的爱变成无畏的爱

完美的爱驱除惧怕，而这就是神的不计后果的爱赋予我们的力量。恐惧让我们反应——反应别人的意见、失败或不确定性。但爱——真正的爱——是行动。爱选择原谅，选择展望，选择勇敢地迈步，哪怕很害怕。神的爱让我们有自由去行动，去超越恐惧，去活出祂在我们生命中的旨意。

很多时候，我们让恐惧控制自己——害怕被拒绝、害怕失败、害怕不符合期望。但神完美的爱比这些恐惧更强大。耶稣为我们带来了祂的好消息，那就是祂的爱解除了我们对人类的恐惧，让我们能够在祂的爱中行动，就像祂为我们所做的一样。

当不计后果的爱勝過死亡

在哈里王子婚礼的故事中，一位主教引用了《歌罗门之歌》8:6：“爱如死般强烈……”这句有力的经文讲述了爱那种不可动摇、持久的特质。但主教没有引用这句后面的经文：“谁是从旷野中上来的，靠着她的爱人？”这段话讲的是互惠的爱——新娘倚靠着她的爱人。作为教会的我们，面对基督的不计后果的爱，我们是否像这新娘一样倚靠着祂？

1约翰4:18说，“爱里没有惧怕，完美的爱驱除惧怕，因为惧怕含有刑罚。”神的圣灵在我们内心给予我们勇气，超越恐惧，因为基督对教会的爱是那么不计后果。当我们倚靠祂的爱时，我们超越了恐惧，勇敢地面对生命中的挑战。

大卫：困境中的胜利

想想大卫。在《撒母耳记上》17章中，大卫面对巨人哥利亚。整个以色列军队都因恐惧而颤抖，但年轻的大卫勇敢地走上前去，满怀信心。他的信心不是来自准备或力量，而是来自他在旷野里放羊时与神的不计后果的爱相遇。大卫知道神与他同在，而这种不计后果的爱赋予他勇气去面对那时所有人都因恐惧而无动于衷的巨人。

大卫对扫罗王说：“不要因这非利士人而失去信心，你的仆人愿去与他战斗。”这不仅仅是勇气的声明，而是对神爱的宣告。大卫走上了错误的舞台，错误的时刻，但他行动起来，而不是像其他人那样反应。我们知道后来的故事：他击败了哥利亚，不是凭自己的力量，而是凭借神通过他所彰显的不计后果的爱。

我们在基督里的胜利

耶稣不希望祂的故事仅仅是过去的故事；祂希望我们今天也能参与祂的胜利。祂的不计后果的爱在每一种情境中与我们相遇，甚至在我们最害怕、最不确定的时刻，它将我们的恐惧转化为无畏的爱，通过这份爱，我们成为祂胜利的一部分。

所以，信徒们，请记住：无论你多么困扰，无论你感到多么迷失，神的不计后果的爱使你成为胜利者。当你遭遇恐惧时，让祂完美的爱把它驱除。让这份无畏的爱赋予你行动、宽恕、信任和前进的勇气。像大卫一样，知道在神的不计后果的爱中，没有什么巨人太大，没有挑战太强。

神的不计后果的爱是真实的，它是强大的，它是为你而来的。你今天愿意依靠它吗？

小组讨论：通过神的爱克服恐惧

破冰问题：

想一想你曾经面对过的一个看似无法克服的恐惧或挑战。面对它时你感受如何，是什么帮助你前行？

现实生活中的例子：通过神的爱克服恐惧

让我们来看一个名叫莎拉的女人的例子，她多年来一直在与恐惧斗争。莎拉成长在一个失败被视为可耻、要求完美的环境中。因此，她对犯错误产生了深深的恐惧，尤其是在工作和人际关系中。她害怕自己不够好，害怕无法满足他人的期望，最害怕的是让神失望。这种恐惧导致她拖延，回避冒险，并因害怕失败而感到瘫痪。

有一天，莎拉感受到神的呼召，决定接受工作中的一个新机会——一个她一直回避的项目，因为她害怕自己不够能力。她祷告并寻求神的引导时，她被提醒了1约翰4:18：“爱里没有惧怕，完美的爱驱除惧怕，因为惧怕含有刑罚。惧怕的人在爱里没有被完全。”莎拉意识到，她的恐惧在阻碍她，而神的完美之爱是克服恐惧的关键。她选择信任神，迈出信心的一步，接受了这个机会

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当莎拉在做这个项目时，她遇到了挑战，但每当她感到想要退缩时，她都提醒自己神的爱和祂应许与她同在。在神的力量帮助下，她顺利完成了这个项目，还因其创造力和领导力而获得称赞。更重要的是，她意识到神的爱比她的恐惧更大，她得到了继续信心迈出步伐的力量，因为她知道自己并不孤单。

讨论问题：

1.用神的爱面对恐惧

莎拉的故事中，我们看到通过信任神的爱，恐惧被驱除。你是否有过因恐惧未能踏出信心的一步或冒险的经历？你是如何处理那种恐惧的？

2.神的完美之爱

1约翰4:18告诉我们，完美的爱驱除恐惧。理解神对你完美的爱如何影响你克服生活中的恐惧？当恐惧试图占据你时，如何提醒自己神的爱？

3.害怕失败

莎拉害怕失败让她错失了机会。害怕失败如何影响你？你如何将这种恐惧替换为对神能力的信任，不论结果如何？

4.信心迈出一步

像莎拉一样，有时神呼召我们踏入新的不确定局面。你在自己的生活中可以采取哪些步骤，在恐惧面前依然向前迈进？神的爱如何给你行动的勇气？

5.群体的角色

在莎拉的旅程中，她依靠神的爱来克服恐惧，但她也必须采取行动。群体如何支持你克服恐惧？我们作为一个团体，如何鼓励彼此信任神的爱并迈出信心的一步？

反思：

花点时间反思：生活中是否有领域是恐惧让你无法迈出信心的一步？如果你倾身依靠神的完美之爱，采取下一步的行动，信任祂与你同在，会是怎样的情景？

Agape House Fellowship

Reckless Love #3

Troubled Yet Victorious

by Coach K

Scripture:

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love’” —1 John 4:18

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/8efgomBPD0I?feature=shared

Video play time: 00:00 - 25:03

Reckless Love: Troubled Yet Victorious

I want to share with you a message about how God’s reckless love leads us into victory, even when we feel troubled or out of place. Imagine this: the stage is set for a grand performance, and a beautiful grand piano sits at the center. The audience is ready, the lights are on, and the curtain rises. But wait—there’s little Tommy, standing on the stage, completely ignoring the sign that says "No Public Access." He’s just a child, curious and full of life, and before anyone can stop him, he begins to play "Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star" on the piano.

As you can imagine, Tommy's parents immediately panic, thinking he’ll embarrass himself in front of the audience. But then, something unexpected happens. The master pianist enters, and instead of scolding Tommy, he says, “Don’t stop. Keep playing.” And so, Tommy continues, playing his simple song, while the master pianist joins in, playing skillfully, complementing Tommy’s tune with higher and lower notes. What started as a small mistake, a moment of recklessness, turned into something beautiful—a four-hand duet that transformed the situation into an unforgettable piece of music.

When Reckless Love Leads Us to the Wrong Stage

In a way, we can all relate to Tommy. Life sometimes feels like we’ve stepped onto the wrong stage, made a mistake, or acted recklessly. We think we’ve embarrassed ourselves or messed up in front of others. And just like Tommy, we all have those moments where fear tries to take center stage in our lives—fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of never being enough. But the opposite of love is not hate—it’s fear. Fear holds us back and makes us shrink into ourselves. Fear keeps us from acting boldly or stepping into the unknown.

God calls us to meet this fear with reckless love. How many times in the Bible do we hear, “Do not fear” or “Do not lose heart”? There are 365 instances where God tells us not to be afraid, maybe even enough for each day of the year. In 1 John 4:18, we are told, "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear."

When Reckless Love Becomes Fearless Love

Perfect love drives out fear, and that’s where God’s reckless love empowers us. Fear makes us react—react to others’ opinions, to failure, or to uncertainty. But love—true love—acts. Love chooses to forgive, to look forward, to step out in faith, even when it’s scary. God’s love gives us the freedom to choose to act, to rise above our fears, and to live out His will in our lives.

Many times, we let fear control us—fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of not meeting expectations. But the perfect love of God is stronger than those fears. Jesus offers us the good news of His love, which frees us from the fear of men and frees us to act in His love, as He did for us.

When Reckless Love Is As Strong As Death

In the story of Prince Harry’s wedding, a bishop quoted Song of Solomon 8:6: “For love is as strong as death…” This powerful verse speaks of love’s unshakable, enduring nature. But what the bishop didn’t quote is the following verse: "Who is this coming up from the wilderness, leaning on her beloved?" This speaks of a reciprocal love—the bride leaning on the beloved. The question for us, as the Church, is: Are we responding to Christ’s reckless love, which is as strong as death, by leaning on Him?

1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.” God’s Holy Spirit in us gives us the courage to rise above fear, because of the reckless love Christ has for His Church. When we lean into His love, we rise above our fears and face the challenges of life with boldness.

David: Troubled Yet Victorious

Think of David. In 1 Samuel 17, David faced the giant Goliath. The whole Israelite army was trembling in fear, but David, a young shepherd boy, stepped forward in faith. His confidence didn’t come from his preparation or strength—it came from the reckless love he had encountered in God while tending his father’s sheep in the wilderness. David knew that God was with him, and that reckless love empowered him to face the giant when everyone else was paralyzed by fear.

David told King Saul, "Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him." This wasn’t just a statement of courage; it was a declaration of faith in God’s love. David stepped onto the wrong stage, at the wrong time, but he acted, not reacting like everyone else. And we know the rest of the story: he defeated Goliath, not by his strength, but by the reckless love of God working through him.

Our Victory in Christ

Jesus didn’t want His story to be just about the past; He wants us to join in His victory today. His reckless love meets us in every situation, even in the most fearful, uncertain moments of life. It turns our fear into fearless love, and through that love, we become partakers in His victory.

So, believers, remember this: no matter how troubled you may feel, no matter how out of place you might be, God’s reckless love makes you victorious. When you encounter fear, let His perfect love drive it out. Let that fearless love empower you to act, to forgive, to trust, and to move forward. And like David, know that with God’s reckless love, no giant is too big, no challenge too great.

God’s reckless love is real, it’s powerful, and it’s for you. Will you lean into it today?

Small Group Discussion: Overcoming Fear through God’s Love

Icebreaker Question:

Think of a time when you faced a fear or challenge that seemed overwhelming. How did you feel before facing it, and what helped you move forward?

Real-Life Example: Overcoming Fear with God's Love

Let’s consider the real-life example of a woman named Sarah, who struggled with fear for many years. Sarah grew up in an environment where failure was seen as shameful, and perfection was expected. As a result, she developed a deep fear of making mistakes, especially in her work and relationships. She feared not being good enough, not meeting others’ expectations, and most of all, disappointing God. This fear caused her to procrastinate, avoid taking risks, and feel paralyzed by the thought of failure.

One day, Sarah felt prompted by God to step out and take on a new opportunity at work—a project she had been avoiding because she feared she wasn’t capable. As she prayed and asked God for guidance, she was reminded of 1 John 4:18: “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” Sarah realized that her fear was holding her back, and that God’s perfect love was the key to overcoming it. She chose to trust God, take a step of faith, and accept the opportunity.

As Sarah worked on the project, she faced challenges, but each time she was tempted to retreat into fear, she reminded herself of God’s love and His promise to be with her. With God’s strength, she completed the project successfully and was even praised for her creativity and leadership. More importantly, she realized that God's love was greater than her fear, and she felt empowered to continue stepping out in faith, knowing she wasn’t alone.

Discussion Questions:

1.Facing Fear with God’s Love:

In Sarah’s story, we see how fear was driven out by trusting in God’s love. Can you think of a time when fear kept you from stepping out in faith or taking a risk? How did you handle that fear?

2. God’s Perfect Love:

1 John 4:18 tells us that perfect love drives out fear. How does understanding God’s perfect love for you impact your ability to overcome fear in your life? How can you remind yourself of God’s love when fear tries to take over?

3.Fear of Failure:

Sarah’s fear of failure held her back from seizing opportunities. How does fear of failure affect you? How can you replace that fear with trust in God’s ability to lead you and equip you for success, no matter the outcome?

4.Stepping Out in Faith:

Like Sarah, sometimes God calls us to step out into new situations that feel uncertain. What steps can you take in your own life to move forward in faith, even when fear is present? How can God’s love give you the courage to act?

5.The Role of Community:

In Sarah’s journey, she relied on God’s love to overcome fear, but she also had to take action. How can the community support you in overcoming fear? How can we as a group encourage one another to trust in God’s love and take steps of faith?

Closing Reflection:

Take a moment to reflect: Is there an area in your life where fear is holding you back from acting in faith? What would it look like for you to lean into God’s perfect love and take that next step, trusting that He is with you?

愛家教會

《不计后果的爱 #2》

破碎帶來改变

教练 K

经文：

“你们中间谁有一百只羊，失去了一只，不把这九十九只留在旷野，去寻找那失去的羊，直到找着呢？找到以后，就欢欢喜喜地把它背在肩上，回到家里，召集朋友和邻居，说：‘我失去的那只羊已找到，和我一同欢乐吧！’” ——路加福音 15:4-6

教练 K 的信息视频：

https://youtu.be/tXVZwGK8UWA?feature=shared&t=2147

视频播放时间：35:46 - 46:30

我想分享一个关于神的不计后果的爱的强大信息，我希望你们和我一起想象一个情境：一架破碎的钢琴。

想象一下——这架钢琴经过多年使用，已经破碎，琴键不再发音，似乎成了废弃的物品。若有人认为这架钢琴无法修复，应该没有人会怪他。修理它有什么意义呢？这不是浪费时间吗？

但是接下来，我想给你讲一个关于如何从看似无望的情境中产生美丽的故事。有一位名叫Andrew Huang的音乐人，他是个在线YouTuber和艺术家，决定用一架破碎的钢琴制作节奏。他与一位朋友合作，这个朋友收集了来自各地的破旧钢琴。一天，他用起重机把一架钢琴举起，并将它从20英尺的高空掉落，钢琴摔碎的声音充斥空气。大多数人听到的可能只是破坏的声音，但Andrew却听到不同的东西。作为一位有天赋的音乐人，他开始将钢琴摔碎的声音与其他音乐元素混合，邀请其他人一起参与创作，最终，这架破碎的钢琴变成了一部美丽的合作艺术作品——一首和谐的音乐杰作。

watch video of this creative and transformative process

现在，想一想——谁关心这架破碎的钢琴呢？这个世界可能把它看作一文不值，但那位音乐人却在乎！就像那位音乐人一样，神也关心我们，即使我们感到破碎。

在路加福音15:3-7中，耶稣讲述了一个比喻，讲到一位牧羊人有100只羊，但失去了一只。牧羊人把九十九只羊留在旷野，去寻找那失去的羊，直到找到为止。这个比喻向我们展示了天父那种不计后果的、无休止的爱。正如牧羊人不会休息，直到找到失落的羊一样，神也永远不会停止追寻我们，无论我们感到多么破碎或迷失。祂深深地重视我们，就像那位音乐人重视破碎的钢琴。

失败的失落声音（路加福音15:5）

神就像那位音乐人——祂有能力改变我们的破碎。祂能将我们的混乱筛选掉，去除杂音，并从中创造出美丽。我们的失败、挣扎和破碎——神能够从中带来和谐。无论我们跌倒多远，神都在工作，重新塑造我们，把我们变成非凡的存在。

与家人一起庆祝（路加福音15:6）

但这不仅仅是关于个人的故事。当牧羊人找到失落的羊时，会举行庆祝。“和我一起欢喜吧！”牧羊人呼喊道。找到失落的羊不仅仅是一个个人的事件，更是将它带回羊群、带回家庭的时刻。就像那位音乐人无法单独完成最终的杰作一样，我们也被召唤要与神的家——信徒的身体——一起庆祝和分享神的工作。我们一起欢庆神的恢复和恩典。

天父的不计后果的爱

天父对我们的爱不是一个遥远的、理论性的观念。它是一种真实的力量——一种能带来我们和我们周围人的真实变化的爱。祂的爱是无休止的，超越了理性和期待。它是一种追求我们的爱，无论我们走得多远。这种爱在最奢华的方式中展现出来：神差遣了祂唯一的儿子，为我们的救赎死在十字架上。

当我们追求神和祂的爱时，我们便为经历祂的恩典和能力做好准备，让它们改变我们。祂的爱是不计后果的，因为祂不会等我们完美无缺——祂主动来找我们，无论我们多么破碎，祂都邀请我们成为新的自己。

所以，年轻的信徒们，你们在哪里感到破碎？在哪里感到迷失？请记住：无论你们走得多远，无论你们感觉多么破碎，神的不计后果的爱正在追寻你们。祂不会放弃你们。祂会来找你们，并且祂将把你们的生活变得美丽，就像那架破碎的钢琴一样。

神的爱是触手可及的。它是真实的。并且它是为你而来的。

让我们回应这份爱，知道在我们的破碎中，祂使我们完整。当祂恢复我们时，我们将一起庆祝，作为一个家庭，在祂的爱中。

小组讨论：神的不计后果的爱

讨论问题：

四个关键领域的医治与释放

神的不计后果的爱不仅追求我们，还渴望医治和释放我们脱离捆绑和破碎的领域。在我们的恢复之旅中，神关注四个关键领域：

1. 非神信念 – 我们对自己、神和世界的错误信念，这些信念使我们停滞不前。
2. 负面家族模式 – 我们继承并与之挣扎的代际问题或模式。
3. 心灵创伤 – 过去经历中的深刻情感创伤，这些创伤影响我们的身份和关系。
4. 邪灵压迫 – 敌人在我们生活中的立足点，影响我们的平安与自由。

为了说明这一点，我们可以考虑一个叫约翰的人的故事。约翰从小就被父亲不断告知他将一事无成。他的父亲也有自卑和失败的困扰，这种负面的信念传递给了约翰。结果，约翰长大后相信自己不配获得成功或爱。这些不敬的信念塑造了他的行为，使他开始怀疑自己，并且疏远人际关系。

约翰的挣扎不仅仅止于此。他还注意到家族中有一种破碎的关系模式和财务不稳定的问题。他的父亲和祖父也有类似的困扰，约翰开始意识到自己在不知情的情况下重复着这些负面家族模式。这使他感到自己被困住了。

此外，约翰还承受着来自童年的心灵创伤。他父亲的严厉言辞和情感上的忽视留下了创伤，影响了他对自己和他人的看法。他发现自己很难信任别人，即使身边有家人和朋友，也常常感到孤立。

最后，约翰开始感受到一种精神上的压迫。他挣扎于焦虑和无法摆脱的失败感，仿佛有什么东西在阻止他完全体验到内心的平安。就好像敌人在他生命中有了立足点，这种邪灵压迫让他无法自由和自信地生活。

讨论：

神的不计后果的爱如何在约翰或你们的生活中带来医治与释放？是否有特定的不敬的信念、家族模式、心灵创伤或邪灵压迫，神正在呼召约翰或你们去面对？约翰或你们如何邀请神的爱与能力进入这些领域，带来医治、自由与恢复？

Agape House Fellowship

Reckless Love #2

Downcast Yet Transformed

by Coach K

Scripture:

““Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbors together and says, ‘Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.’’” —Luke 15:4-6

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/tXVZwGK8UWA?feature=shared&t=2147

Video play time: 35:46 - 46:30

I want to share a powerful message about the reckless love of God, and I want you to imagine something with me: a downcast piano.

Picture this—after years of use, the piano is shattered, its keys are out of tune, and it seems like nothing more than a pile of useless junk. No one would blame you for thinking it's beyond repair. What’s the point of fixing it? It’s a waste of time, right?

But then, I want to tell you a story of how something beautiful came from what seemed like a hopeless situation. There's a musician named Andrew Huang, an online YouTuber and artist, who decided to make a beat with a broken piano. He partnered with a friend who collected broken pianos from all over. One day, he lifted a piano, dropped it from 20 feet, and let the sound of its crash fill the air. While most people would just hear destruction, Andrew heard something different. As a talented musician, he began mixing the sounds from the crash with other musical elements, inviting others to join him in creating a piece of music. What began as a broken instrument, dropped in pieces, became a masterpiece—a beautiful, cooperative work of art.

watch video of this creative and transformative process

Now, think about it—who cared about that broken piano? The world might have seen it as worthless. But the musician cared, and just like the musician, God cares about you and me, even when we feel broken.

In Luke 15:3-7, Jesus tells a parable about a shepherd who has a hundred sheep but loses one. He leaves the ninety-nine and searches for the lost one until he finds it. This parable shows us the reckless, relentless love of our Heavenly Father. Just as the shepherd wouldn’t rest until the lost sheep was found, God will never stop pursuing us, no matter how broken or lost we feel. He values us deeply, just as the musician valued the broken piano.

The Lost Sound of a Huge Failure (Luke 15:5)

God is like that musician—He has the power to transform our brokenness. He takes our mess, filters out the noise, and makes something beautiful from it. Our failures, our struggles, our brokenness—God is able to take those things and bring harmony out of them. No matter how far we’ve fallen, God is at work, reshaping and reworking us into something extraordinary.

Celebrating with the Family (Luke 15:6)

But it’s not just about the individual. When the shepherd finds the lost sheep, there’s a celebration. “Rejoice with me!” the shepherd calls out. It’s not just about finding the lost sheep; it’s about bringing it back into the fold, into the family. Just as the musician couldn’t have created the final masterpiece alone, we too are called to celebrate and share in God’s work with His family—the body of believers. We are meant to rejoice together in God’s restoration and grace.

The Reckless Love of the Father

The Father’s love for us is not a distant, theoretical idea. It is a tangible force—a love that brings real change in our lives and in the lives of those around us. His love is relentless. It goes beyond reason and expectation. It’s the kind of love that pursues us, no matter how far we’ve wandered. And that love was demonstrated in the most extravagant way: God sent His only Son to die for us, to redeem us.

As we pursue God and His love, we position ourselves to experience His grace and power in ways that transform us. His love is reckless because it doesn’t wait for us to be perfect—it comes after us, broken and all, and invites us to be made new.

So, young believers, where do you feel broken? Where do you feel lost? Remember this: no matter how far you’ve strayed, no matter how broken you feel, God’s reckless love is pursuing you. He’s not giving up on you. He’s coming after you, and He’s going to create something beautiful out of your life, just like that broken piano.

God’s love is tangible. It’s real. And it’s for you.

Let’s respond to that love, knowing that in our brokenness, He makes us whole. And when He restores us, we will celebrate together, as one family, in His love.

Small Group Discussion: The Reckless Love of God

Discussion Question:

Healing and Deliverance in Four Key Areas

God’s reckless love not only pursues us but also desires to heal and deliver us from areas of bondage and brokenness. In our journey of restoration, God addresses four key areas:

1. Ungodly Beliefs – The lies we believe about ourselves, God, and the world that hold us back.
2. Sins of the Fathers (or Negative Family Patterns) – Generational issues or patterns that we inherit and struggle with.
3. Soul Wounds – Deep emotional hurts from past experiences that affect our identity and relationships.
4. Demonic Oppression – Areas where the enemy has a foothold in our lives, affecting our peace and freedom.

To illustrate this, let’s consider the story of a man named John. Growing up, John was constantly told by his father that he would never amount to anything. His father had his own struggles with insecurity and failure, and this negative belief was passed down to John. As a result, John grew up believing that he wasn’t worthy of success or love. These ungodly beliefs shaped his actions, causing him to doubt himself and push away relationships.

John’s struggle didn’t stop there. He also noticed a pattern of broken relationships and financial instability in his family. Both his father and grandfather had similar struggles, and John began to realize that he was repeating those negative family patterns without even understanding why. This added to his sense of feeling trapped.

Further, John carried deep soul wounds from his childhood. His father’s harsh words and emotional neglect left scars that affected how he saw himself and others. He found it difficult to trust people and often felt isolated, even when he was surrounded by family and friends.

Finally, John began to feel a sense of spiritual oppression. He struggled with anxiety and feelings of defeat that he couldn’t shake, as if something was holding him back from fully experiencing peace. It was as if the enemy had a foothold in his life, and this demonic oppression prevented him from living freely and confidently.

Discussion:

How can God’s reckless love bring healing and deliverance to these four areas in John’s or your life? Are there specific ungodly beliefs, family patterns, soul wounds, or demonic oppressions that God is calling John or you to address? How can John or you invite God’s love and power into these areas for healing, freedom, and restoration?

愛家教會

《不计后果的爱 #1》

破碎却美丽

在我们软弱中拥抱神的爱 

经文：

“人若爱父母过于爱我，就不配做我的门徒；人若爱儿女过于爱我，就不配做我的门徒。若不背起自己的十字架跟从我，就不配做我的门徒。” ——马太福音 10:37-38

Coach K 讲道视频:

https://youtu.be/UW_9S3C1TnA?feature=shared

播放时间: 33

神的不计后果的爱

在贾斯汀·比伯演绎的《不计后果的爱》这首敬拜歌曲中，他独自站在神面前，没有观众，传达了在神的爱中完全被接纳的画面。这一画面反映了神的爱是无条件且不变的，无论我们有多少不完美或失败。

为了说明这一点，想象一个农民，他用两个水壶从河里运水到田里。一个壶是完美无瑕、光滑的，而另一个壶有一道裂缝，导致它一路漏水。裂缝的水壶感到羞愧，认为自己毫无用处，因为它无法装满水。相比之下，完美的水壶常常自豪地炫耀自己的完美。然而，当农民听到裂缝水壶的抱怨时，他却揭示了裂缝水壶泄漏的水沿途滋养了一片美丽的野花。农民早就知道这个裂缝，并故意在水壶的路径上种下了种子，利用水壶的缺陷创造出美丽的景象。

这个故事揭示了《不计后果的爱》这首歌背后的真理。神的爱并不是草率或不理智的，而是无怨无悔地追求我们，哪怕我们感到破碎和不完美。正如裂缝水壶虽然破碎，却依然有它独特的价值，神的爱也在我们软弱的时候流向我们。我们可能感到不够好或浪费，但神的爱遮盖了我们所有的缺陷。

保罗在哥林多后书12:9中分享了他如何与不自信作斗争。他感到自己被忽视和评价，就像裂缝水壶一样。但耶稣安慰他说：“我的恩典够你用的，因为我的能力是在软弱中显得完全。”神常常使用那些破碎的器皿来彰显祂的能力。我们的软弱为神的力量留下了空间，而在我们的不完美中，神的恩典显得更加明显。

在希腊语中有三种爱：欲爱（Eros）、手足之爱（Philadelphia）和神的爱（Agape）。欲爱是基于吸引和情感，手足之爱则根植于亲情和理解，而神的爱是阿卡比，一种意志上的爱，是有意识和自愿的，独立于情感或理智。神的爱就是阿卡比——它是有意图的、不变的，选择无论我们多么不完美都爱我们。这种不计后果的爱非常强大，因为它在我们软弱时依然拥抱我们，而在我们的软弱中，我们找到了力量。

面对神的不计后果的爱，我们每个人都要做出一个决定：我们是否愿意接受神的爱，即使我们身上有裂痕和缺陷？我们是否愿意让神使用我们这些破碎的器皿，去为祂的名带来美丽和荣耀？正如哥林多后书4:7提醒我们：“我们有这宝贵的财富存在瓦器里，要显明这莫大的能力是出于神，而不是出于我们。”我们的软弱成为了彰显神力量的途径。

最后，让我们反思《不计后果的爱》这首歌中的歌词：

“没有哪片阴影你不照亮，

没有哪座山你不爬上，

追寻我。

没有哪道墙你不拆掉，

没有哪句谎言你不拆毁，

追寻我。”

今天，如果你感到破碎、迷失或遥远，请知道神的不计后果的爱正在无怨无悔地追求你。不论你身处何处，祂已经准备好拥抱你，医治你，并带领你度过你的挣扎。如果你准备好接纳祂的爱，让祂改变你的生活，我邀请你走上前来。让祂的爱引导你，坚固你，带领你度过每一个挑战。

小组讨论：神的不计后果的爱

破冰问题：

在我们开始之前，和小组分享：你是否曾经觉得自己不配得到神的爱，但后来意识到祂依然在那里支持你？那是什么样的经历？

讨论问题：

1.神的爱是不计后果的，不是草率，而是无怨无悔地追求我们：

在讲道中，我们讨论了神的爱是“无怨无悔”的，这意味着即使我们感到破碎或离祂远，祂依然不断地追求我们。知道神的爱总是在追逐我们，这种认识在你自己的生活中，尤其是在困难或挑战时期，让你有什么感受？

2.裂缝水壶的故事：

故事中的裂缝水壶因自身的不完美而感到羞愧，但它依然被农夫用来创造美丽。你生活中的哪些方面让你感到“破碎”或不完美？神如何可能在你的不完美中使用你来实现祂的目的？

3.在软弱中拥抱神的能力：

保罗在哥林多后书12:9中说：“我的恩典够你用的，因为我的能力是在软弱中显得完全。”作为基督徒，我们如何转变自己的看法，把软弱视为让神的力量彰显的机会？

4.神的爱是阿卡比：

我们讨论了希腊语中的三种爱：欲爱（Eros）、手足之爱（Philadelphia）和神的爱（Agape）。阿卡比是神对我们的爱——一种有意图、有决心且无条件的爱。作为信徒，我们如何在日常生活中实践阿卡比的爱，尤其是对那些可能难以去爱的人的爱？

5.不计后果的爱在日常生活中的应用：

在讲道的结尾，我们反思了歌曲的歌词：“没有哪片阴影你不照亮，山你不爬上，追寻我。”我们如何在日常生活的挣扎中提醒自己，神的爱是不懈地追求我们，无论是在工作中、家庭中，还是在我们的关系中？

Agape House Fellowship

Reckless Love #1

Broken yet Beautiful:

Embracing God's Love in Our Weakness

by Coach K

Scripture:

“But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness'” 2 Corinthians 12:9

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/UW_9S3C1TnA?feature=shared

Video play time: 33 mins

The Reckless Love of God

In Justin Bieber's rendition of the worship song "Reckless Love," he sings alone in front of God, with no audience, conveying an image of total acceptance in God’s love. This image mirrors the profound truth that God’s love is unconditional and unchanging, regardless of our imperfections or failures.

To illustrate this, consider the story of a farmer who uses two pots to carry water from a river to his fields. One pot is flawless, smooth, and perfect, while the other has a crack that causes it to leak water along the way. The cracked pot feels ashamed, thinking it is useless because it cannot carry a full load. In contrast, the perfect pot proudly boasts of its flawlessness. However, as the farmer listens to the cracked pot's complaints, he reveals that the water leaking from the cracked pot has been nourishing a line of beautiful wildflowers along the path. The farmer had always known about the crack and had intentionally planted seeds there, using the pot's imperfection to create something beautiful.

This story reflects the truth behind the song "Reckless Love." God’s love is not reckless in the sense of being careless or erratic, but rather, it is relentless and pursues us even when we feel broken and imperfect. Just as the cracked pot was still valuable and contributed in its unique way, God’s love flows to us despite our weaknesses. We may feel inadequate or wasteful, but God's love covers all our imperfections.

Paul, in 2 Corinthians 12:9, shares how he struggled with feelings of inadequacy. He felt overlooked and judged by others, much like the cracked pot. But Jesus comforted him, saying, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” God often uses vessels that are cracked and broken to demonstrate His power. Our weakness makes room for His strength to be displayed, and in our imperfections, God’s grace is made more evident.

There are three types of love in the Greek language: Eros, Philadelphia, and Agape. Eros is based on attraction and emotions, while Philadelphia is rooted in affection and understanding. Agape, however, is the love that God demonstrates toward us. It is a love of will, intentional and voluntary, independent of feelings or intellect. God’s love is Agape—it is deliberate and unchanging, and it chooses to love us despite our imperfections. This reckless love is powerful because it embraces us even when we are weak, and in that weakness, we find strength.

In response to God’s reckless love, we are called to make a decision: Are we willing to accept His love, even with all our cracks and flaws? Will we let God use us, as cracked vessels, to bring beauty and glory to His name? As 2 Corinthians 4:7 reminds us, “We have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.” Our weakness becomes the avenue through which God’s strength is made known.

In closing, let us reflect on the lyrics from the song, "Reckless Love":

"There's no shadow you won't light up,

Mountain you won't climb up,

Coming after me.

There's no wall you won't kick down,

Lie you won't tear down,

Coming after me."

Today, if you feel broken, lost, or distant, know that God’s reckless love is relentlessly pursuing you. No matter where you are in life, He is ready to embrace you, heal you, and carry you through your struggles. If you are ready to receive His love and allow Him to transform your life, I invite you to come forward. Let His love guide you, strengthen you, and carry you through every challenge.

Small Group Discussion: The Reckless Love of God

Icebreaker Question:

Before we begin, share with the group: Have you ever experienced a time when you felt unworthy of God's love, but then realized He was still there for you? What was that like?

Discussion Questions:

1.God’s Love is Reckless, Not in Carelessness, But in Relentlessness:

In the sermon, we discussed how God’s love is "reckless" in the sense that it relentlessly pursues us, even when we feel broken or far from Him. How does knowing that God’s love is always pursuing us make you feel in your own life, especially during difficult or challenging times?

2.The Cracked Pot Story:

The cracked pot in the story was ashamed of its imperfection but was still used by the farmer to create something beautiful. In what areas of your life do you feel "cracked" or broken? How might God be using your imperfections for His purpose?

3.Embracing Weakness for God’s Power:

Paul in 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” How can we, as Christians, shift our perspective to see our weaknesses as opportunities for God’s strength to be shown?

4.God's Love as Agape:

We talked about the three types of love in Greek: Eros, Philadelphia, and Agape. Agape is the love God has for us—a love that is deliberate, willful, and unconditional. How can we, as believers, practice Agape love in our daily lives with others, especially those who might be difficult to love?

5.Daily Application of Reckless Love:

In the closing of the sermon, we reflected on the song’s lyrics, “There's no shadow you won't light up, mountain you won't climb up, coming after me.” How can we remind ourselves of God's relentless love in our day-to-day struggles, whether at work, home, or in our relationships?

愛家教會

耶稣是系列 #2

父亲的摇篮曲 #2

摆脱负面家庭模式 

经文：

“爱父母过于爱我的，不配做我的门徒；爱儿女过于爱我的，也不配做我的门徒。38不背起自己的十字架跟从我的，也不配做我的门徒。”

—马太福音 10:37-38

Coach K 讲道视频:

视频链接

https://youtu.be/FdEd5pmIyp8?feature=shared&t=1990

播放时间: 33:09 -55:03

今天，我们继续探索“父亲的摇篮曲”，它如何赋予我们力量去打破负面家庭循环的枷锁。通过耶稣的恩典，我们被呼召成为为家庭带来医治、喜乐和自由的人，摆脱伤害的遗产，拥抱喜乐的传承。

成为打破循环的人

“如果你被评判过，就选择理解。

如果你被拒绝过，就选择接纳。

如果你被羞辱过，就选择怜悯。”

这些话提醒我们，我们有能力阻止代际负面的传播。耶稣作为完全的神和完全的人，向我们展示了打破这些循环是可能的。他经历了拒绝、羞辱和误解，但他以爱、恩典和救赎作出回应。

正如哥林多后书 5:21 所说：“神使那无罪的替我们成为罪，好叫我们在他里面成为神的义。” 这不仅关乎个人的救赎——它也关乎通过祂的力量重新定义我们的生命和家庭。我们被呼召从医治的地方，而非痛苦的地方行动，成为我们曾经在痛苦中所需要的那个人。

打破文化循环

在耶稣的时代，希腊和罗马对家庭（familia）的看法植根于权威主义，家长掌握着家庭的绝对控制权。耶稣勇敢地挑战了这些动态。

在马太福音 10:34中，耶稣说：“你们不要以为我来是叫地上太平；我来并不是叫地上太平，乃是叫地上动刀兵。” 这听起来可能很严厉，但耶稣指的是用属灵的剑斩断罪恶和压迫性的家庭模式。他的信息不是要摧毁关系，而是要打破代际罪的枷锁——例如虐待、偏袒或基于恐惧的控制。

当耶稣在马太福音 12:48中宣告，“谁是我的母亲？谁是我的弟兄？” 他不是在拒绝自己的家人，而是重新定义神国度中的家庭。他邀请每一个人——无论他们的世俗家庭动态如何——通过与天父的关系进入一个新的、永恒的家庭。

宣告新的遗产

奉耶稣的名，我们勇敢地宣告：

“你正在打破代际的咒诅。这就是为什么事情对你来说并不那么容易。你是你的血脉所等待的人。”

你家庭的过去不必定义你的未来。有了耶稣，你可以自由地创造一个充满恩典、喜乐和爱的全新常态。

• 如果你的家庭充满愤怒，你可以选择耐心。
• 如果你在批评中长大，你可以说生命和鼓励的话语。
• 如果你的家庭因恐惧而运作，你可以凭信心和基督里的信心行走。

定义新的常态

在基督里，我们不仅被呼召去打破罪的循环，还要用喜乐和公义的遗产来取而代之。

• 育儿：
• 如果你小时候没有体验到一个温柔耐心的父母，你可以通过对孩子温柔地说话来打破这一模式。
• 财务：
• 如果你的家庭有一种贫穷心态，你可以通过信靠神的供应，明智地管理资源，并以喜乐的心给予来重新定义新的常态。

无论是关系、习惯还是态度——耶稣都赐予你力量，去定义一种新的生活方式，这种生活方式荣耀神并带来喜乐。

耶稣的血打破一切咒诅

究竟是什么打破了代际的咒诅？是羔羊的血！耶稣为我们生命中每一个罪恶模式付出了全部代价。

• 借着祂的鞭伤，我们得了医治。
• 借着祂的宝血，我们的罪得以洁净。
• 借着祂头上的荆棘冠冕，我们得了清明的心思。

耶稣的牺牲赋予了我们进入自由、医治和转变的力量。没有其他人有能力打破这些枷锁——只有耶稣能做到，而祂已经为你做到了。

结论：活在父亲的摇篮曲中

打破代际模式并不容易，但通过耶稣，这是可能的。他邀请我们停止伤害的循环，开始医治的循环。祂的摇篮曲是希望、救赎和喜乐的颂歌，呼唤你迈入一个祝福后代的新遗产。

你不再受过去错误的束缚。在耶稣里，你可以自由地创造一个以恩典、信仰和爱为基础的家庭文化。祂的血已经付清了一切代价，祂的能力装备你在胜利中生活。

让我们一起宣告：

"主啊，我将我家庭的过去交托给你。借着你的宝血，我摆脱了一切咒诅，并有能力创造一个新的喜乐和公义的遗产。谢谢你，耶稣，为我付出代价，让我有自由定义我生命和家庭中的新常态。奉你的名祷告，阿们。"

勇敢地迈入这个真理：你的家庭历史可能塑造了你，但耶稣的爱改变了你。 倾听父亲的摇篮曲，让它指引你进入充满医治、希望和喜乐的未来。

小组实践练习：打破负面的家庭模式

目标：

帮助参与者通过指导性、实践性的练习，应用打破负面家庭模式的原则，创造新的遗产。

练习 1：反思并宣告新的遗产

重点： “你正在打破代际的咒诅。这就是为什么事情对你来说并不那么容易。你是你的血脉所等待的人。”

• 第 1 步：反思：
• 给每位参与者一张纸。请他们反思自己经历过的一个负面的家庭模式（例如，恐惧、愤怒、批评），并将其写下来。
• 第 2 步：宣告：
• 请参与者写下在基督里打破这种模式的宣告（例如：“奉耶稣的名，我宣告愤怒不再定义我的家庭。我选择耐心和爱作为新的遗产。”）。
• 第 3 步：祷告：
• 围绕小组，让每个人大声读出他们的宣告，然后进行集体祷告，同意彼此获得自由和转变。

练习 2：定义新的常态

重点： “在基督里，我们不仅被呼召去打破罪的循环，还要用喜乐和公义的遗产来取代它们。”

• 第 1 步：识别模式：
• 作为一个小组讨论：你生活中的哪个领域需要定义新的常态？（例如：育儿、财务、沟通、解决冲突。）
• 第 2 步：设定目标：
• 两人一组，参与者为本周重新定义这一领域设定一个实际的目标。例如：
• 育儿： 每天对你的孩子说一句肯定的话。
• 财务： 制定一个简单的预算，并通过慷慨给予他人来实践感恩。
• 沟通： 本周在对话中更加积极地倾听。
• 第 3 步：分享与承诺：
• 让参与者与小组分享他们的目标，并为彼此的力量和喜乐祷告，帮助实现目标。

练习 3：反思耶稣的牺牲

重点： “借着祂的鞭伤，我们得了医治。借着祂的宝血，我们的罪得以洁净。借着祂头上的荆棘冠冕，我们得了清明的心思。”

• 第 1 步：视觉冥想：
• 提供一个安静的时刻，让参与者反思耶稣的牺牲。鼓励他们想象将自己的重担（负面的家庭模式、恐惧或挣扎）放在十字架脚下。
• 第 2 步：集体祷告：
• 小组一起为耶稣牺牲的各个方面祷告：
• 鞭伤得医治： 为身体、情感和属灵的医治祷告。
• 宝血得洁净： 为赦免和打破代际罪祷告。
• 荆棘得清明： 为思想的清晰、平安和力量祷告。
• 第 3 步：领受圣餐：
• 如果合适，可以作为一个小组分享圣餐，以巩固对耶稣牺牲的纪念以及祂转变生命和家庭的能力。

练习 4：活出父亲的摇篮曲

重点： “你的家庭历史可能塑造了你，但耶稣的爱改变了你。”

• 第 1 步：感恩反思：
• 请每位参与者分享他们看到上帝在自己家庭或个人生活中的转变方式。
• 第 2 步：行动计划：
• 请参与者思考本周可以在家庭或关系中活出父亲的摇篮曲的一种实际方式。例如：
• 给家庭成员写一封鼓励的信。
• 采取一个步骤与某人和解。
• 开始一个以喜乐和感恩为中心的新家庭传统。
• 第 3 步：闭幕祷告：
• 以感恩上帝的转变能力的祷告结束，并请求祂的引导，帮助参与者在日常生活中活出父亲的摇篮曲。

可选后续挑战：

鼓励参与者在本周实施这些练习时记录他们的经历。邀请他们在下次小组聚会中分享自己的反思和见证。

Agape House Fellowship

Father’s Lullaby #2

Father’s Lullaby

Breaking Free from Negative Family Patterns

2

by Coach K

Scripture:

““Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me.’” —Matthew 10:37-38

Coach K’s Message Video:

https://youtu.be/T8NLSIA3xRY?feature=shared

Video play time: 33:25 -1:09:00

Today, we continue exploring the Father’s Lullaby and how it empowers us to break generational cycles of negativity. Through Jesus, we are called to be the ones who bring healing, joy, and freedom to our families, leaving behind the legacy of hurt and embracing the legacy of joy.

Be the Person Who Breaks the Cycle

"If you were judged, choose understanding.

If you were rejected, choose acceptance.

If you were shamed, choose compassion."

These words remind us that we have the power to stop generational negativity in its tracks. Jesus, being fully God and fully man, showed us that breaking these cycles is possible. He experienced rejection, shame, and misunderstanding, yet He responded with love, grace, and redemption.

As 2 Corinthians 5:21 says, Jesus became sin for us so that we might become righteous in Him. This isn’t just about personal salvation—it’s about redefining our lives and our families through His power. We are called to act from a place of healing, not pain, and to be the person we needed when we were hurting.

Breaking the Cultural Cycle

In Jesus’ time, the Greek and Roman view of family (familia) was rooted in authoritarianism, with the head of the household wielding absolute control. Jesus boldly challenged these dynamics.

In Matthew 10:34, Jesus said, “Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword.” While this may sound harsh, Jesus was referring to cutting off sinful and oppressive family patterns. His message wasn’t about destroying relationships but about breaking the chains of generational sin—patterns like abuse, favoritism, or fear-based control.

When Jesus declared in Matthew 12:48, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” He wasn’t rejecting His family but was redefining family in the Kingdom of God. He was inviting everyone—regardless of their earthly family dynamics—into a new, eternal family through their relationship with the Heavenly Father.

Declare a New Legacy

In Jesus’ name, we boldly proclaim:

“You’re breaking generational curses. That’s why things don’t come so easily for you. You’re who your bloodline has been waiting for.”

Your family’s past does not have to define your future. With Jesus, you have the freedom to create a new normal filled with grace, joy, and love.

• If your family struggled with anger, you can choose patience.
• If you grew up with criticism, you can speak life and encouragement.
• If your family operated from fear, you can walk in faith and confidence in Christ.

Defining the New Normal

In Christ, we are not only called to break cycles of sin but to replace them with legacies of joy and righteousness.

• Parenting:
• If you didn’t experience a parent who spoke softly and patiently, you can choose to break that pattern by speaking with gentleness to your children.
• Finances:
• If your family lived with a poverty mindset, you can redefine the new normal by trusting in God’s provision, stewarding resources wisely, and giving generously with joy.

Whatever the area—relationships, habits, or attitudes—Jesus gives you the power to define a new way of living that honors God and brings joy.

The Blood of Jesus Breaks Every Curse

What ultimately breaks generational curses? The blood of the Lamb. Jesus paid the full price for every sinful pattern in our lives.

• Through His stripes, we have divine health.
• Through His blood, our sins are cleansed.
• Through the thorns on His head, we have a sound mind.

Jesus’ sacrifice has given us the power to step into freedom, healing, and transformation. No one else has the capacity to break these chains—only Jesus can, and He has already done it for you.

Conclusion: Living in the Father’s Lullaby

Breaking generational patterns isn’t easy, but it is possible through Jesus. He invites us to stop the cycle of hurt and begin a cycle of healing. His lullaby is one of hope, redemption, and joy, calling you to step into a new legacy that blesses generations to come.

You are not bound by the mistakes of the past. In Jesus, you are free to create a family culture of grace, faith, and love. His blood has paid the price, and His power equips you to live in victory.

Let’s make this declaration together:

"Lord, I surrender my family’s past to You. Through Your blood, I am free from every curse and empowered to create a new legacy of joy and righteousness. Thank You, Jesus, for paying the price and giving me the freedom to define a new normal in my life and family. In Your name, Amen."

Step boldly into this truth: Your family’s history may have shaped you, but Jesus’ love transforms you. Listen to the Father’s lullaby and let it guide you into a future filled with healing, hope, and joy.

Small Group Practical Exercises: Breaking Negative Family Patterns

Objective:

To help participants apply the principles of breaking negative family patterns and creating a new legacy through guided, practical exercises.

Exercise 1: Reflect and Declare a New Legacy

Focus: “You’re breaking generational curses. That’s why things don’t come so easily for you. You’re who your bloodline has been waiting for.”

• Step 1: Reflection:
• Provide each participant with a piece of paper. Ask them to reflect on a negative family pattern they’ve experienced (e.g., fear, anger, criticism) and write it down.
• Step 2: Declaration:
• Have participants write a declaration in Christ to break that pattern (e.g., “In Jesus’ name, I declare that anger will no longer define my family. I choose patience and love as the new legacy.”).
• Step 3: Prayer:
• Go around the group and have each person read their declaration aloud, followed by a group prayer of agreement for freedom and transformation.

Exercise 2: Defining a New Normal

Focus: “In Christ, we are not only called to break cycles of sin but to replace them with legacies of joy and righteousness.”

• Step 1: Identifying a Pattern:
• Discuss as a group: What is one area of your life where you feel called to define a new normal? (Examples: parenting, finances, communication, conflict resolution.)
• Step 2: Goal Setting:
• In pairs, have participants set one practical goal for this week to redefine that area. For example:
• Parenting: Speak a word of affirmation to your child daily.
• Finances: Create a simple budget and practice generosity by giving to someone in need.
• Communication: Resolve to listen more actively in conversations this week.
• Step 3: Share and Commit:
• Have participants share their goals with the group and pray over one another for strength and joy in carrying them out.

Exercise 3: Reflecting on Jesus’ Sacrifice

Focus: “Through His stripes, we have divine health. Through His blood, our sins are cleansed. Through the thorns on His head, we have a sound mind.”

• Step 1: Visual Meditation:
• Provide a quiet moment where participants can reflect on the sacrifice of Jesus. Encourage them to visualize laying their burdens (negative family patterns, fears, or struggles) at the foot of the cross.
• Step 2: Group Prayer:
• As a group, pray through each aspect of Jesus’ sacrifice:
• Stripes for health: Pray for physical, emotional, and spiritual healing.
• Blood for cleansing: Pray for forgiveness and breaking generational sins.
• Thorns for a sound mind: Pray for clarity, peace, and strength in thoughts.
• Step 3: Communion:
• If appropriate, share communion as a group to solidify the remembrance of Jesus’ sacrifice and His power to transform lives and families.

Exercise 4: Living the Father’s Lullaby

Focus: “Your family’s history may have shaped you, but Jesus’ love transforms you.”

• Step 1: Gratitude Reflection:
• Have each participant share one way they’ve seen God’s transformation in their family or personal life.
• Step 2: Action Plan:
• Ask participants to think of one practical way they can live out the Father’s lullaby this week in their family or relationships. Examples:
• Writing a letter of encouragement to a family member.
• Taking a step to reconcile with someone.
• Starting a new family tradition centered on joy and gratitude.
• Step 3: Closing Prayer:
• End with a prayer of thanksgiving for God’s transformative power and a request for guidance as participants live out the Father’s lullaby in their daily lives.

Optional Follow-Up Challenge:

Throughout the week, encourage participants to journal their experiences as they implement these exercises. Ask them to share their reflections and testimonies in the next small group meeting.

愛家教會

耶稣是系列 #9

耶稣是

耶稣是我的心思意念

如何克服负面思想

经文：

"“因为神赐给我们的，不是胆怯的心，乃是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。”

—提摩太后书 1:7

Coach K 讲道视频:

视频链接

https://youtu.be/FdEd5pmIyp8?feature=shared

播放时间: 00:00 - 33:09

想象一下，一个名叫Ashley的三岁小女孩站在浴室里，自信满满地唱着：“我喜欢我的家，我能做好任何事，比任何人都好！”她的母亲录下了这一幕，上传到网络后，2200万观众观看了这段视频。有人评论说：“她太小了，根本不懂自己在说什么。”但你觉得她真的没有健全的心思吗？

圣经在提摩太后书 1:7中告诉我们：“因为神赐给我们的，不是胆怯的心，乃是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。”那么，什么是健全的心思？这是一颗经过耶稣基督拯救、复苏、保护和安稳的心。我们的心思意念因耶稣的宝血得救赎，并借着圣灵的能力被圣化。

健全的心思需要时间

许多基督徒期望在受洗后立即完全改变，但有时候健全的心思并不会马上显现。虽然神的应许是真实的，但祂可能允许我们在与基督同行的过程中，逐渐发展出健全的心思。这是一个与基督的受苦和救赎同行的旅程。耶稣曾说：“所以你们要完全，像你们的天父完全一样。”（马太福音 5:48）。这是一种救赎的过程，而其中一个重要部分就是要战胜和克服负面思想。

真实生活情境：卡尔的负面思想

让我们看一个现实生活的例子。卡尔是一名学生，在一次作业中得了C。他立刻开始想：“我会考砸所有的考试。”“我不是个好考生。”“我很笨。”“我应该尽量避免考试。”随着时间的推移，这种想法越发严重。当卡尔去参加他第一次求职面试或约女生出去时，这些想法依然困扰着他：“反正我会失败。”

卡尔正经历我们所说的负面自我标记，即过度概括，把在某个领域的失败延伸到生活的所有方面。圣经中称这种情况为因内疚和羞耻产生的自我定罪。内疚来源于我们内心，而羞耻往往来自外部的压力——社会、文化或家庭。两者都会导致以表现为驱动的生活，让我们觉得自己必须完美才能被接受。

过度概括的种子

负面的自我标记就像一颗种子。一旦种下，它会不断生长，最终占据我们的心思意念。它让我们基于一次失败，做出广泛的、伤害性的结论。例如：

• 过滤：你只关注情况中的负面部分，忽略所有正面的结果。
• 个人化：当发生不好的事情时，你会自动归咎于自己，即使这并不是完全你的错。

如何通过耶稣克服负面思想

那么，我们如何通过神的救赎大能克服这些负面思想呢？一个有力的例子来自于Shammah Gara，她是一名基督徒女孩，也是牧师的女儿。在她的书《Neither Do I》中，她分享了自己未婚先孕的经历。尽管她选择不堕胎，但她几个月来一直背负着深深的羞耻和悲伤，同时在外界面前装作坚强。然而，这个故事不仅仅是她的跌倒，它更是关于耶稣如何恢复她，医治她，并带给她救恩和力量。

就像在约翰福音 8:11中被抓的淫妇，耶稣为Shammah站了起来。当所有人都想定罪那位女人时，耶稣弯下腰，静静地在地上写字。他没有参与那些充满内疚和羞耻的指控。他反而站出来，抵挡了别人强加给她的负面标签。

耶稣为我们的健全心思而战

当我们把负面思想带到耶稣面前，并宣告祂是我们的健全心思时，祂会做一些极其有力的事。耶稣不仅为我们的罪而死，祂还战胜了因内疚和羞耻而产生的负面思想。耶稣为你我挺身而出，选择在指控面前保持沉默，以便让我们得以自由。“如今，那些在基督耶稣里的就不定罪了。”（罗马书 8:1）。

敌人不断试图让我们陷入羞耻，因为他知道羞耻会让我们与神的爱隔绝。但是当我们来到耶稣面前，祂为我们与神的亲密关系而战。在敬拜中，我们练习将所有负面思想交托，允许圣灵引导我们，进入没有任何事物能将我们与基督的爱隔绝的地方（罗马书 8:38-39）。

克服负面思想的步骤：

1. 识别谎言：像卡尔一样，我们需要识别何时在过度概括或负面标记自己。找到这种思想的根源，并把它带到耶稣面前。
2. 在基督里宣告健全的心思：记住，神赐给我们的不是胆怯的心，而是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。在怀疑或内疚时，宣告这个真理在你生命中。
3. 使内疚和羞耻的声音沉默：正如耶稣让人群在羞辱那个女人时沉默下来，我们也可以通过专注于耶稣的爱与饶恕，来让内疚和羞耻的声音安静下来。
4. 在战斗中敬拜：在敬拜中，我们承认耶稣比以往任何时候都更接近，祂为我们的心思和我们的平安而战。把每一个负面思想都放在祂的脚下。

结论：

耶稣是你的健全心思。当负面思想涌现时，记住祂已经为你的心思而战并赢得胜利。来到祂面前，与祂站在一起，让圣灵引导你进入健全、得赎、并完全恢复的心思。当你软弱时，祂刚强，祂完美的力量为你工作。

小组活动: "通过耶稣更新我们的心思意念"

目标:

帮助参与者识别并克服负面思想，通过团契、祷告和实际应用，用神的话语更新心思意念，培养健全的心思。

重点经文:

提摩太后书 1:7 - “因为神赐给我们的，不是胆怯的心，乃是刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。”

所需材料:

• 索引卡或纸片
• 笔
• 圣经或圣经应用程序
• 一张大海报纸或白板

活动流程:

1. 开场讨论 (10 分钟):

• 引导问题: 问小组：“你常常挣扎的一个负面思想是什么？”
• 鼓励每个人简短分享。
• 解释说我们每个人都会面临负面思想，但耶稣赐给我们克服它们的力量，并使我们拥有健全的心思意念。

2. 识别负面思想 (10 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 给每个人分发索引卡或纸片和笔。
• 步骤 2: 让每个人写下一个他们常常挣扎的负面思想（例如，“我不够好”，“我总是失败”，“没有人关心我”）。
• 步骤 3: 参与者可以选择保密，或者根据自己的舒适度与小组分享。

3. 圣经真理交换 (15 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 把大家两两分组，或分成3-4人的小组。
• 步骤 2: 小组一起查找圣经中直接针对这些负面思想的经文。例如：
• “我不够好” → 以弗所书 2:10 - “我们原是他的工作，在基督耶稣里造成的。”
• “我总是失败” → 腓立比书 4:13 - “我靠着那加给我力量的，凡事都能做。”
• “没有人关心我” → 罗马书 8:38-39 - “没有什么能使我们与神的爱隔绝。”
• 步骤 3: 让每个参与者写下与他们的负面思想相对的经文。鼓励他们这样宣告：“我不再相信[负面思想]，我将持守[圣经真理]。”

4. 共同更新心思意念 (15 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 让大家回到一起，读出他们选择的正面经文（不需要分享负面思想，除非他们愿意）。
• 步骤 2: 使用海报纸或白板创建一个“我们持守的真理”列表。把每个人的经文写下来，作为对神话语的宣告。
• 步骤 3: 安静祷告几分钟，求耶稣更新我们的心思意念，用祂的真理代替消极思想，并引导我们进入健全的心思。

5. 祷告和鼓励 (10 分钟):

• 步骤 1: 围成一个圈，邀请愿意的人祷告，感谢神的真理，祈求力量克服负面思想。
• 步骤 2: 以祝福祷告结束，宣告提摩太后书 1:7，求神赐给每个人力量、仁爱和健全的心思。

6. 带回家的挑战:

• 鼓励每个参与者将他们选择的经文贴在可见的地方（例如镜子上、手机提醒里、或日记本上），并在这一周每天默想。
• 下周询问小组成员，这一周他们如何通过默想这节经文来对抗负面思想，并体验耶稣的平安。

总结:

这个活动帮助我们实践将每一个负面思想都带到神的话语面前（哥林多后书 10:5）。通过小组中的圣经学习和共同更新心思意念，我们学会了以耶稣基督的爱和力量生活，拥有健全的心思意念。